What has to happen has already happened!
There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right?
To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I could choose to forget her and move on OR I could drop everything and run away.
Whatever choice I make, whether out of raaga/dvesha or with a calm mind, is what the ball rolling wanted for me in life. Is this explanation correct?
Answer:
Let us understand this with the analogy of a strong flowing river. You are moving with the current of life just like a leaf moves with the current of the river. Can you flow against the current of the river? No! You will be still dragged in the direction of the current.
Just like that, if on account of your raga[desires]/dvesha[aversions] you want to flow against the current of the life, you will still be dragged in the direction of the current. You are only increasing your suffering by struggling with the current. Raaga/Dvesha causes unnecessary suffering. Raaga or ‘I want this’ and Dvesha or ‘I don’t want this’ is just an unnecessary struggle to flow against the current flow of life.
The ball is already rolling and what has to happen has already happened. The choice is made already, it has to just appear before you, that’s it. Therefore, just be a witness! Just flow with the current. Wait for it to unfold. If you choose to involve yourself in unnecessary raaga and dvesha, it will only create ‘induced karma’ and prolong your burning of waiting for her.
Choice is yours!
I agree with the last part (“Choice is yours!”) – but it contradicts the middle part (“The choice is made already”). You have a choice to create your karma by acting skillfully and without harm to others. Peace…
Truth is contradictory, dear! The path of spirituality is not based on linear thinking, one needs to imbibe spherical thinking, to understand it! 😉
Ektaji has a fantastic explanation. “The ball is already rolling and what has to happen has already happened. “
Lot of practitioners get confused in this area. Questions such as “If everything is per-determined, what is the use of free will?” And many such questions arise.
The question was hovering around how to choose any path?
Remember Bhagavad Gita. How Arjun was confused and did not want to fight. Bhagvan Krishna had a short and sweet answer. “Arjun, you are a warrior. These battlelines are drawn between dharma and adharma. It is your duty to protect the dharma i.e. Get up and fight”
Extrapolating this, for every situation there is dharma and adharma. The way of heart and way of mind. Heart is the seat of courage, compassion and connectedness to the whole(existence). It always wants to do maximum good, even if the puny little “I” gets hurt.
Mind is the seat of “I”. It wants maximum wellbeing of the puny mind and body. And wellbeing everything and everyone associated with “I”.
Heart will pardon others, apologise for hurting others, always look at issues from others vantage point. Mind will just aggrandize. Mind does not care if others are hurt as long as “I” can shine.
So, in your situation with your girlfriend. Heart will say that let me apologize for mistakes I have made and try to reconcile. That is your compassion. And if she still rejects you, then move on with grace. That is your courage.
Mind will not apologize. Mind will not have grace and courage.
Lovingly apologizing (for your mistakes) and accepting whatever outcome is your duty.
Like Bhagwan Krishna said
“Karma karo, fal ki Chinta nahi. Karma fal tumhare haath mai hai hi nahi”
Do your karma(duties) without worrying about results. The results are not in your hands.
Like Ektaji said “Like a leaf in river, just flow”
Another great illustrious personality used these words in his movies, Bruce Lee
“I am like waters and flow like water” . He derived these words from teachings of Jiddu Krishnamurthy.