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What did/do you do when you witness that everybody is living in their own heads with their own stories and are suffering unnecessarily because of not being able to see the drama?



Every single human on this planet who feels that he is the doer is suffering from the disease of bondage dear. The only way out for him is to recognize that ‘I am a dream character that is at the beck and call of the dream-script’. Until one’s Ego accepts this, one suffers. The day one recognizes experientially that actions, thoughts, feelings, sensations, and above all perceptions of Sight, Sound, Smell, Taste, Touch are NOT MINE, he gets cured of this disease. He becomes healthy. In Sanskrit, the word for health is the same as the word for ‘established in oneself’, Swastha!


Now, when I see them suffering [at the transactional level], for me it is all part of the dream script. I do NOT give importance to their suffering. The cause that they have established for their suffering is simply their mind’s story. I listen empathetically but do not indulge in their story. It sometimes may seem distant as all I talk about is going with the flow or being with what is! Many people may have come to me for sympathy expecting me to indulge in their story which I refrain from as that would mean adding to their [dream script] suffering.


So what should you as an Advaitin do when someone comes to you with a story?

    • When a suffering heart has come to you ‘at the peak of his agitation’, he cannot absorb wisdom. Only kind but true words like ‘leave it to the universe’ are sufficient.
    • When a suffering heart has come to you ‘after the agitation has passed’, he might be able to absorb some wisdom depending on his capacity [patrata]. A true mentor does not judge the person, a true mentor judges his patrata and gives a dose of knowledge per his capacity.


What if someone cannot accept the wisdom?
Step back! The patrata is not there. Your judgment of the patrata is incorrect.


If he can absorb the wisdom, then?
Give it in small doses as per his/her absorption power.


What could be the obstacles for me trying to mentor someone? What should I keep in mind? 
The biggest obstacle will be your own family members. They will not be able to take wisdom from you. They have seen you in the seed form and do not recognize the flower that has blossomed. In the seed form, if you did not exhibit any natural Gnyana [wisdom], is hard for them to suddenly accept the Gnyana flowing out of you now. If you encounter such a situation, it’s best to back out!


After Buddha was enlightened, he visited his family. His father urged him to drop his robes and return to rule the kingdom. Buddha said, ‘I am not the one who left years ago. A new ‘me’ has returned, look carefully’. But the Father said, ‘You can fool the world with your robes, you cannot fool me. I have seen you since childhood.’ Buddha’s mother however saw the blossomed wisdom in her son and become his follower.


Back to your question – what do I really do when I see suffering?
Kind words of Truth initially and then NOTHING!

All in all! Everything works according to the waking dream script! The script of life is always perfect! There is in reality only Consciousness! There are no people! There is no suffering! There is no doer! There is no experiencer! There is no ‘I’ even! There is simply perfection!

When asked at the transactional level, there is simply one sentence that arises in different ways – What is, IS! One who is meant to get it will get it. One who is not, will not!


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  1. Hemant


  2. Kirti

    Thank you Didi 🙏

  3. Jaspreet

    Thanks Ektaji! This is very helpful. There is only awareness 🙂

  4. Jaspreet Bath

    Thank you Ektaji 🙏

  5. Nilay

    Thank you Ektaji!🙏🏽


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