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No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha! Question: I have a very difficult marriage and a temperamental husband who drinks and blames me for his drinking. I am lonely and in pain. I understand this knowledge. I know everything is temporary but I still...
Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts! Question: In yesterday’s YV, he talks about not creating future because of thoughts. So all along we try to think of how to shape the future but it seems that’s counter intuitive to what’s to...
How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments? Question: I agree and have experienced that daily regular sadhana, pranayama, meditation, chanting helps to bring awareness and stay focused. However, there are times when we go through unpleasant moments how do...
How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior? Question: After working with a person, some habit/pattern and memory came up. It reminds me that she acted like my ex-boss who needs us to respect her and follow her lead; but at some points, my ego tells me: No, this is not right! I...
What is the difference between intention and craving?

What is the difference between intention and craving?

What is the difference between intention and craving? Question: Dear Ektaji, what is the difference between an intention and raaga/dvesha? Answer: Beautiful Question! Intention is a plan to do an action. Raaga/Dvesha is the emotion behind the action. Intention is a...
Free will is a misnomer!

Free will is a misnomer!

Free will is a misnomer! Question: Ekta Ji, Please can you elaborate on this. Is there no free will? I thought only few things like birth, death, longevity of life, source of birth are predetermined. Others, we can change our karmas. The statement below contradicts....
Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana Question: I went for the 10 days retreat. The experience was very fulfilling. On day 4 of the Vipassana program during meditation, I was vividly seeing the events from my childhood more than 35 years ago which upset me very much...
Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening! Question: Should I stay here in the US or go back to India? Should I sell my home or keep it and rent it out and return back to the US in a few years? Is there still some karma to be taken care of in the US…..in this...
What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong? Question: I am getting a feeling of missing out. What if this Karma Theory is wrong and I wake up 40 years from now realizing that I missed out on people, places and things that at least gave me short-term pleasure. Now I have to...
Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments! Question: My 14 year old son is terrible to live with. He is disrespectful, hurtful, vengeful without any provocation… even when I come from a space of love, the reaction from him is horrible. I tell myself that it’s my karma and to go...
To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act? Question: With today’s knowledge, I know I should take life as a game but I was cheated in business. Should I drop it too, or should I pursue the case I filed with the lawyer?   Question: I work for a profit oriented company and there is a...
What is seeking?

What is seeking?

What is seeking? Question: I quit my job and interviewed for another one. They offered me an entry level position with a pay less than half of what I am currently making. I did not accept the offer. My previous boss is working on getting me back at my old job. By me...
How do thoughts generate in the mind?

How do thoughts generate in the mind?

How do thoughts generate in the mind? Questions: How does the thought generate in our mind? Answer: From a Dvaitam perspective: Thoughts generate out of the subconscious. Now what is the quality of your subconscious? It depends on the conditioning of your mind from:...
Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations Question: Dear Ekta, I really don’t trust my business partner as he cheats on tax and my share of profits. I also realize that it must be karma, so I have to deal with this. At this moment I don’t have an alternative,...
Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’ Question: Ektaji – Is it fair to have Dvesha to control the last impression (not to think certain thing)? If it is something out of control why not make it like “come as it comes” like spontaneously? Can we train our subconscious...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened! Question: There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right? To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I...
Birthday Message!

Birthday Message!

Birthday Message! Question: JGD didi, many happy returns of the day. Please could you give us a message on your birthday about how to celebrate a birthday.   Answer:   Life is a school. We all are here to learn some lessons. There are several classrooms:...
Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL!

Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL!

Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL! Question:Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL! Please, can you enlighten us on this?Answer:To understand Buddha first, we have to understand his basic teachings.Buddha was a prince, who saw riches/name/fame/relationships but did not...
Time does not exist!

Time does not exist!

Time does not exist! Question: As you said, we will be born again and again until we attain moksha from the cycle of birth and death. How to understand the paradigm of time here i.e. after this life, can I be born back in time? Does time exist really? If no, then...
What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness? Question:You mentioned law of attraction in our discussion. Is there anything we can do for the numerous times we have had knowingly/unknowingly grumbled upon others behavior and had bad thoughts about them? I am sorry for my ill...
Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ? Question: When the storm of emotions hit (it did yesterday LOL) I kept reminding myself to “watch for it”. The emotion was anger and disappointment but when it was surging the high wasn’t under control. I was constantly reminding myself that the...
Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana Question: Hello Ektaji, I read somewhere “Devotion destroys all the karma”.  Could you please explain this with reference to what we have learnt so far in Ashtavakra Gita? Answer: Ashtavakra is the path of Gnyana [knowledge]....
A few questions on KARMA

A few questions on KARMA

A few questions on KARMA Question:Is karma about keeping your intentions positive or is it about keeping your intention and thoughts neutral?Answer:There are two steps:Moving from negativity to positivityDropping the attachment to positivity = attaining...
Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought Question: If a craving (or aversion) arises in my mind, would it be more strategic to observe that thought itself objectively, or to just direct my attention to my body for an observation round? My guess is the former…..but I’ve been finding more...
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity? Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma...