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Question:

Is dispassion accepting what has come our way and not longing for a certain outcome?

Answer:

Dispassion is a natural maturity of the intellect that comes after dissolving yourself in self-introspection or spiritual knowledge and meditation. It is just like the maturity that comes to a child when he grows a little older, he is not attached much to his toys. A natural dispassion happens to him. Craving for a toy and getting angry if someone took it away, are all in the past.

Dispassion is just like that, it happens when your intellect is sharpened by the sword of spiritual knowledge. It is a happening. It is a firm understanding. It is not suppressing a desire, it is understanding that this craving/desire if not fulfilled, is not the end of the world. It is a maturity that helps you maintain sambhava – equanimous mind in both fulfillment of desire and non-fulfillment.

Such a person is a peaceful person who has an equanimous mind. One little failure or non-fulfillment cannot take his peace away. His graph of emotions does not peak by excitement nor does it valley because of depression. He has a stable graph of emotions. This is called Dispassion.

Dispassion is not ‘acceptance’. Because the word ‘acceptance’, implies ‘that something that was rejected has now been accepted’.

Dispassion is not ‘suppression’. It is an awakening that the mind is like a bottom-less pot, it can never be satiated.

Dispassion is a realization that desires are ceaseless, one goes, the other comes.

Dispassion is a self-learning that a fulfilled desire does not give you the joy that the mind had imagined and exaggerated.

Dispassion is where desires drop off automatically after a recognition of their futility, it is not a suppression!

Above all, Dispassion is living in the present moment, devoid of wanting anything else beyond ‘what is’. Dispassion is just ‘being with what is’ because ‘what is, IS!’

Got it?