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Preparation for a long Buddha retreat

Preparation for a long Buddha retreat

Preparation for a long Buddha retreat Question: Didi, please would you advise on how to prepare for my upcoming 10-day long Buddha retreat? Answer: Irrespective of whether you are enrolled in the Satipatthana retreat or the Jhana retreat or the Metta retreat, everyone...
Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone! Question: Didi, I see that people around me do all kinds of corrupt and unwholesome things – lie, steal, twist facts, play games with me, do politics in office as well as at home. These people are very...
Dealing with Sexual desires on the spiritual path!

Dealing with Sexual desires on the spiritual path!

Dealing with Sexual desires on the spiritual path! Question: What should be the effort from our side to get over sexual desire on the spiritual path, if we should not suppress it? If we express it aren’t we making those impressions stronger? What should be our...
How to give it back to the evil people in life?

How to give it back to the evil people in life?

How to give it back to the evil people in life? Question:I’m following the Buddha’s path of compassion but I need advice on how to treat people who treat you unfairly, cold-heartedly or are just evil people? I have been running into a lot of problems with it. I’ve...
Vasanas

Vasanas

Vasanas Question:Can you clarify what vasana means?Answer:The mind is stuck in 3 factors –PeopleSituations andThingsThe association with all these 3 will lead to impressions in the mind.Association with people leads to – Impressions of entanglement, jealousy, lust,...
Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana Question: I went for the 10 days retreat. The experience was very fulfilling. On day 4 of the Vipassana program during meditation, I was vividly seeing the events from my childhood more than 35 years ago which upset me very much...
What is taught in a Buddha retreat?

What is taught in a Buddha retreat?

What is taught in a Buddha retreat? Question: Please would you explain what is taught in the Buddha retreats? I have statues of Buddha at home but am totally unaware of his teachings. Please enlighten me about what is Vipassana, Samatha, Jhanas, etc. Answer: Here is a...
Birthday Message!

Birthday Message!

Birthday Message! Question: JGD didi, many happy returns of the day. Please could you give us a message on your birthday about how to celebrate a birthday.   Answer:   Life is a school. We all are here to learn some lessons. There are several classrooms:...
Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right? Question:I have a question regarding the previous knowledge on Apaatra Daanam!We have faced that situation many times with extended family. Using my Viveka, it’s obviously ‘apaatra’! But why I still feel a pinch? Just...
Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations! Question:At work, few people are disrespectful in team meetings. I understand emotions arise due to1] my dvesha [I do not have a powerful physical voice or authoritative position,...
Are you ready for Buddha’s teachings on the Art of BEing with REALITY?

Are you ready for Buddha’s teachings on the Art of BEing with REALITY?

Are you ready for Buddha’s teachings on the Art of BEing with REALITY? Question:I am confused whether I should start with the Vedic or Buddha’s knowledge sessions on the website http://www.gnyanasangha.com. How do I know if I am ready for Buddha’s...
Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted? Question:Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted? I notice that NOT ONLY in Hindu monks but also in the Buddhist sects. Why can’t man accept the Truth?Answer:Your question is valuable and will help many others.Buddha’s...
Want to spend an afternoon interacting with a fully enlightened person… How to find one?

Want to spend an afternoon interacting with a fully enlightened person… How to find one?

Want to spend an afternoon interacting with a fully enlightened person… How to find one? Question:I have a very deep thirst for knowing the Truth of ‘Who am I?’ I follow Ramana Maharshi’s teachings but it is so difficult to find a fully enlightened being to spend some...
Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru! Question:Ektaji, My bhakti kicked in and did a little revolt against the answer – https://ektabathija.wordpress.com/2016/07/04/craving-for-guru/Divine craving (for the physical guru or the tattva) is in my faith a...
Am I cheating my Guru if I follow somebody else?

Am I cheating my Guru if I follow somebody else?

Am I cheating my Guru if I follow somebody else? Question: Dearest Ekta Didi, I have been with a spiritual foundation for the past 22 years and have done several courses there. Ever since I stumbled upon Ramana’s sessions with you, there has been a huge change that I...
Time does not exist!

Time does not exist!

Time does not exist! Question:As you said, we will be born again and again until we attain moksha from the cycle of birth and death. How to understand the paradigm of time here i.e. after this life, can I be born back in time? Does time exist really? If no, then there...
What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness? Question:You mentioned law of attraction in our discussion. Is there anything we can do for the numerous times we have had knowingly/unknowingly grumbled upon others behavior and had bad thoughts about them? I am sorry for my ill...
Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ? Question: When the storm of emotions hit (it did yesterday LOL) I kept reminding myself to “watch for it”. The emotion was anger and disappointment but when it was surging the high wasn’t under control. I was constantly reminding myself that the...
Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana Question: Hello Ektaji, I read on one of the Facebook post where Guruji says “Devotion destroys all the karma”.  Could you please explain this with reference to what we have learnt so far in Ashtavakra Gita? Answer: Ashtavakra...
You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist!

You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist!

You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist! Question:Hi Ekta ji, Loved your analogy of white and green dress with body and soul. However, continuing with this analogy if the dress is the body and the body in white or green dress who did the action is the soul, then...
A few questions on KARMA

A few questions on KARMA

A few questions on KARMA Question:Is karma about keeping your intentions positive or is it about keeping your intention and thoughts neutral?Answer:There are two steps:Moving from negativity to positivityDropping the attachment to positivity = attaining...
Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening! Question:Should I stay here in the US or go back to India? Should I sell my home or keep it and rent it out and return back to the US in a few years? Is there still some karma to be taken care of in the US…..in this...
Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how? Question:Didi, what does it mean to be with reality as it is? It’s difficult to understand. Please, would you explain?Answer:Be with reality as it is!This is a tough one to understand. People feel what’s so difficult in being with...
Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path! Question :Dear Didi, I tend to be influenced by those who are having too much fun and less awareness and don’t take the spiritual path seriously. I feel that we are not even eligible to learn this beautiful knowledge from...
Who is the designer of the Mind?

Who is the designer of the Mind?

Who is the designer of the Mind? Question: Didi I was just in wonder why is my mind so cunning / playing games all the time and not letting me be at peace / be a Sakshi? Why is it designed so? Answer: Design of the Mind: Mind is ruled by the inherent power of Nature...
Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought Question: If a craving (or aversion) arises in my mind, would it be more strategic to observe that thought itself objectively, or to just direct my attention to my body for an observation round? My guess is the former…..but I’ve been finding more...
Shivering during meditation, is it normal?

Shivering during meditation, is it normal?

Shivering during meditation, is it normal? Question: Yesterday, when I was meditating, I could only do three rounds of body observation but I felt I was aware the whole time and I felt for the first time I am doing it as you had explained, I was feeling all my body...
Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Results for "wrong karma" Question:Dear Ektaji,When do we call it Apatradanam? My husband and I helped on several occasions, our Indian temple priest by giving guru Dakshina in US dollars. Now there is a request for money for his daughter’s dental procedure....
Leave the mind alone!

Leave the mind alone!

Leave the mind alone! Question: Dear Didi, in your signature and on your web site, there is a beautiful quote. “Leave the mind alone, it will quieten itself! Meditate!”I meditate, but it is more of a struggle and I always come out feeling not so good about my...
The essence of Mourning period after death.

The essence of Mourning period after death.

Results for "the essence" Question:Dear Ektaji,A very close friend of my brother is expected to die due to cancer. Respected elder family members have said to him that he cannot attend a family wedding in June if he attends his friend’s cremation ceremony....
Anger burns you NOT the other person

Anger burns you NOT the other person

Anger burns you NOT the other person Question:Didi one silly questionIs doing unwholesome behavior with unwholesome people justified? I got angry with a person at work who was gossiping and was very harmful towards me, so I gave her a taste of her own medicine, but...
Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Ekta Question:What is the point of knowing that it is the Mercury retrograde going on right now? I have only been on the watch since yesterday keeping a guard to prevent negativity. It makes me nervous. How is it helpful?Answer:Mercury Retrograde is just an apparent...
How to make sure not to be born again?

How to make sure not to be born again?

How to make sure not to be born again? Question:How to make sure not to be born again? How to stop the cyclical nonsense of birth and death?Answer:That’s an invaluable question, dear. But, It does not have a straight answer. There is NO way to ensure not to be born...
Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah!

Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah!

Results for "naah" Question:You have so many people asking you so many questions from all around the world……I’m sure you could fill every free minute you have (waiting for an appointment, waiting in the grocery check-out lane, sitting in the bathroom) just...
How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ? Question:First one of the 5 elements or the senses hits us (it also depends on my doshas), then it goes to the memory bank & opens one file like, dislike with People, Situation & Thing. (Is there any...
Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts! Question:In yesterday’s YV, he talks about not creating future because of thoughts. So all along we try to think of how to shape the future but it seems that’s counter intuitive to what’s to be...
How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments? Question:I agree and have experienced that daily regular sadhana, pranayama, meditation, chanting helps to bring awareness and stay focused. However, there are times when we go through unpleasant moments how do...
Can one use restraint to be celibate?

Can one use restraint to be celibate?

Can one use restraint to be celibate? Question:For Brahmacharya to happen, a maturity is required, before this maturity can one use restraint to be celibate?Answer:The act of “restraining the senses” belongs to the circle of sleep.What is the circle of...
What is the difference between intention and craving?

What is the difference between intention and craving?

What is the difference between intention and craving? Question:Dear Ektaji, what is the difference between an intention and raaga/dvesha?Answer:Beautiful Question! Intention is a plan to do an action. Raaga/Dvesha is the emotion behind the action.Intention is a...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened! Question:There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right?To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I could...
Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise? Question:I met a guy for a matrimonial alliance but he left saying I feel a pull towards u so if it’s meant to be then destiny will get us back together! I don’t know how to deal with this. Is it really all destiny? Or it’s just a name...
Stop saying ‘why is this happening to me?’ Eat fresh!

Stop saying ‘why is this happening to me?’ Eat fresh!

Stop saying ‘why is this happening to me?’ Eat fresh! Question:Hello Ekta didi, sometimes I wonder how come some people don’t have to let go of anything in life. They have been blessed with things others aren’t. Why is it so? Is it all karma again? How come some...
How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior? Question:After working with a person, some habit/pattern and memory came up. It reminds me that she acted like my ex-boss who needs us to respect her and follow her lead; but at some points, my ego tells me: No, this is not right! I...
Abiding in the Self!

Abiding in the Self!

Abiding in the Self! Question:There is a sort of ‘bond’ between the awareness and the mind. The awareness goes out every time (away from the self to the world). And this connection or bond must be broken. How can I break this connection? I know that I have to take a...
Karma in babies

Karma in babies

Karma in babies Question:At what age does a person starts creating karma? When a child is born, he does not have this attachment to action and he naturally does what comes to him, but again the child does not have any understanding of awareness and knowledge. so both...
Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex? Question:Some have very strong desires and need sex anywhere between 2/3 times a week. Some have not had sex in months. Some are frustrated that one of the partner initiates all the time. Some have never had great need for...
The life of ‘maximum relief’

The life of ‘maximum relief’

The life of ‘maximum relief’ Question: My friend somewhere read that the life before liberation is the toughest, is there any truth to this? Answer: I don’t think that the last life before liberation is the toughest. It is just that in that life, you will...
Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

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Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety Question:Dear Ektaji,How should one deal with anxiety through Karma Yoga? I understand the role of gyana and bhakti/surrender when we are anxious about something in future but it is still prabhava gyana. Therefore I end up reasoning with my racing...
Karma and Suffering

Karma and Suffering

Karma and Suffering Question:If everything is decided by Karma flow then what possibly could be an explanation of 3 years or even 3 months old girls getting physically abused? Is the one who is getting sexually abused experiencing the result of Sanchita karma? If yes...
Three paths for a Seeker!

Three paths for a Seeker!

Results for "three" Question:Good to meet you mam. Love being in a place where the knowledge is discussed..feels light and natural.One thought that passed me during today’s discussionLoving the God, consciousness in a idol form or even as a person like...
Is sex divine?

Is sex divine?

Is sex divine? Question:I have a very personal question. What is significance of sex in our marriage? If I am not the body, and only the consciousness, then how do I define sex or lovemaking with my spouse? Is sex divine? Or is it more of us not able to control our...
Craving for Guru!

Craving for Guru!

Craving for Guru! Question: Is love for GURUJI, Raaga? Will it bring us back in next lifetime with him? what if one do not seek Mukti but only want to be with Guruji in every life? Answer: Then one has not progressed spiritually at all. One has just substituted his...
Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns Question:JGD Ektaji, I have been dumped by my boyfriend and I just cannot find the courage to let go and move on. My ego is hurt and I really want to know why? Why has this happened to me? I want to still make it happen...
Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future!

Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future!

Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future! Question:Didi, how to overcome the bad habit of reacting to other people. I always react and then regret that I should not have behaved so. Please guide me.Answer:Very few people realize that the actual problem is ‘with their own...
Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations Question: Dear Ekta, I really don’t trust my business partner as he cheats on tax and my share of profits. I also realize that it must be karma, so I have to deal with this. At this moment I don’t have an alternative,...
Impressions related to body and sex

Impressions related to body and sex

Impressions related to body and sex Question:I have impressions on my mind for past so many years that this body is me. How do I get rid of this impression that is so strongly rooted in my mind? Will the impression of “I am the body” be the reason for my re-birth...
Life is flowing, just flow with a smile!

Life is flowing, just flow with a smile!

Life is flowing, just flow with a smile! Question:I have to make a decision. How do I let “Life take its course”, how do I flow with it and where does my Purushartha come into play? What do I have to do to stop pretending to be a doer? With all the decision making and...
Happy NEW perspective!

Happy NEW perspective!

Happy NEW perspective! Seeker: Can you help me make a firm new years resolution and stick to it?Answer: At this junction in life [new years], most people run after resolutions or they sit and sulk about the past years resolutions that they did not keep up to. Haven’t...
Is Ambition also a seeking?

Is Ambition also a seeking?

Question:One of yesterday’s Yoga Vasishtha knowledge points and homework, that you gave was ‘not to seek and just be and live effortlessly through whatever transpires because of Sanchita karma.’  How do we differentiate seeking from ambition?  Or are they the same?...
Dusangha sarvathaiva tyajaha – Shun bad company at all costs!

Dusangha sarvathaiva tyajaha – Shun bad company at all costs!

Question:Di, there is tremendous change in the society in India…everyone is so much into alcohol and stuff. There are special afternoon get together of females where all of them go to pubs…I am always the odd one out not going or not drinking…as a result I feel cut...
Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments! Question:My 14 year old son is terrible to live with. He is disrespectful, hurtful, vengeful without any provocation… even when I come from a space of love, the reaction from him is horrible. I tell myself that it’s my karma and to go...
Reacting in Dreams

Reacting in Dreams

Reacting in Dreams Question:During the daytime a thought came to me, to say something nasty to my colleague in office. But I stopped myself and I let go of that dvesha [aversion] and I also forgot about it. By the time it was evening and I came home, I felt very...
Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not? Question:I have a desire to have clear pretty skin. I was wondering if it is Raaga or it is part of nature? Is it a bad karma or a bad desire to want to look pretty not with make-up but with normal skin?Answer:You are the...
Have a ‘Pure’ Guru Poornima!

Have a ‘Pure’ Guru Poornima!

Question:What are the important things that a sincere seeker should understand about Guru Poornima? I was wondering how should a sincere seeker and disciple’s acharan [behaviour] be on the spiritual path especially in the presence of a Guru. Please guide.Answer:Guru...

How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima?

How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima? Question:Ektaji Jai Guru Dev, Can you please give me tips on how to get a Proper True Darshan of Gurudev during this upcoming Guru Poornima. The mind gets swept away with the much fanfare and misses seeing the...
How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed? Question:Can you please give direction on how do you manage a job, family, personal endeavor, and Seva while not getting overwhelmed? I have a tendency to say yes to many things, but in the end, I’m just...
From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer! Question:Ektaji, what is the scenery and what does it mean ‘not to get lost’ in the scenery? Who is the seer?Answer:Scenery: Everything around you is the scenery. The people, situations and things around you are all scenerySeer: You are the seer....
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity? Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma...
Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals? Question:We do not choose where we are born or what profession we choose, but we choose whom we get married to or have kids. Also, the kind of people who come into our life is a result of our past karmas – good or...
Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’ Question: Ektaji – Is it fair to have Dvesha to control the last impression (not to think certain thing)? If it is something out of control why not make it like “come as it comes” like spontaneously? Can we train our subconscious...
What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender? Question:What is the difference between tolerance and surrender?Answer:Tolerance is like a potential volcano. There is a dislike hidden within which just churns and burns inside and can erupt at any time....
How do I experience Silence during meditation ?

How do I experience Silence during meditation ?

How do I experience Silence during meditation ? Question:“Drop the small mind”. I understand one way is to keep saying I am not the body, I am not the mind, I am not the ego etc. I do this during meditation, yet I am unable to TRULY drop the mind just does not go...
Who am I?

Who am I?

Who am I? Question:Similar to what’s said in AG 4- I got caught in identifying with a talent and also with not having a talent & was/is suffering. What Guruji said still repeats in my ears. He said “you don’t know who you are”. I started thinking how and when will...
Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness Question:What if it is not me who is possessive, but someone else is possessive of me , rather obsessive almost to the sick levels of possessing me, what is that I should or should not do.Answer:Recognize that it is just a play of the...
There is no happiness in this world!

There is no happiness in this world!

There is no happiness in this world! Question: Why am I not happy with my-self? why am I continuously looking for someone/something/some situation to make me happy or make me feel that I am happy? Answer: There is no Happiness/Sukha in this world, but the mind does...
When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you! Question:Jai Gurudev Ekta didi, “When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you. Understand this and don’t put up resistance. Feel happy and lighter about it....
To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act? Question:With today’s knowledge, I know I should take life as a game but I was cheated in business. Should I drop it too, or should I pursue the case I filed with the lawyer?Question:I work for a profit oriented company and there is a lot of...
Free will is a misnomer!

Free will is a misnomer!

Free will is a misnomer! Question:Ekta Ji, Please can you elaborate on this. Is there no free will? I thought only few things like birth, death, longevity of life, source of birth are predetermined. Others, we can change our karmas. The statement below contradicts....
What is seeking?

What is seeking?

What is seeking? Question:I quit my job and interviewed for another one. They offered me an entry level position with a pay less than half of what I am currently making. I did not accept the offer. My previous boss is working on getting me back at my old job. By me...
What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong? Question:I am getting a feeling of missing out. What if this Karma Theory is wrong and I wake up 40 years from now realizing that I missed out on people, places and things that at least gave me short-term pleasure. Now I have to give...
No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha! Question:I have a very difficult marriage and a temperamental husband who drinks and blames me for his drinking. I am lonely and in pain. I understand this knowledge. I know everything is temporary but I still...
Marriage or Seva?

Marriage or Seva?

Marriage or Seva? Question:I want to do seva to progress spiritually. I feel I will progress much more if I were at my master’s feet than being at home. I also do not want to get married, but my mother wants me to get married.  I am in a quandary. Should I focus on my...
Who is the designer of the Mind?

Who is the designer of the Mind?

Question:Didi I was just in wonder why is my mind so cunning / playing games all the time and not letting me be at peace / be a Sakshi? Why is it designed so?Answer:Design of the Mind:Mind is ruled by the inherent power of Nature called Maaya! Mind is born out of...
KARMA!

KARMA!

KARMA! Question:Please explain the sentencesExcerpt 1 -The space is not afflicted by any action. Similarly, you are free from karma. Answer:Look around you right now. You are surrounded by space from all angles. Can you touch the space around you? Can you wet the...