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Journey from external to internal

Journey from external to internal

Journey from external to internal Question: Dear Ektaji, I have been with a spiritual organizaion for 15 yrs now, have done courses, seva, satsang(less of seva though :-), could be better) … However, one question that has never been understood is going within. Journey...
Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy! Question: Dear Ektaji,When do we call it Apatradanam? My husband and I helped on several occasions, our Indian temple priest by giving guru Dakshina in US dollars. Now there is a request for money for his daughter’s dental...
Srimad Bhagwatam condemns Con-Men!

Srimad Bhagwatam condemns Con-Men!

Srimad Bhagwatam condemns Con-Men! Question: Didi, This verse is from the Srimad Bhagwatam. It criticises the people who earn a livelihood by accepting money on behalf of the Lord. All the new-age spiritual Gurus and Masters are doing the same except for a few....
Life is flowing, just flow with a smile!

Life is flowing, just flow with a smile!

Life is flowing, just flow with a smile! Question: I have to make a decision. How do I let “Life take its course”, how do I flow with it and where does my Purushartha come into play? What do I have to do to stop pretending to be a doer? With all the decision making...
The script of life is always perfect!

The script of life is always perfect!

The script of life is always perfect! Question:Didi,What did/do you do when you witness that everybody is living in their own heads with their own stories and are suffering unnecessarily because of not being able to see the drama?   Answer: Every single human on...
How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed? Question: Can you please give direction on how do you manage a job, family, personal endeavor, and Seva while not getting overwhelmed? I have a tendency to say yes to many things, but in the end, I’m just...
What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong? Question: I am getting a feeling of missing out. What if this Karma Theory is wrong and I wake up 40 years from now realizing that I missed out on people, places and things that at least gave me short-term pleasure. Now I have to...
Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals? Question: We do not choose where we are born or what profession we choose, but we choose whom we get married to or have kids. Also, the kind of people who come into our life is a result of our past karmas – good or...
Choices – what is right and wrong?

Choices – what is right and wrong?

Choices – what is right and wrong? Question: Is applying viveka, a kind of seeking? Because choosing/deciding right from wrong is so relative to this mind?   Answer: Actually Viveka is deeper than just plain discrimination between right and wrong. Viveka is...
You are not the doer!

You are not the doer!

You are not the doer! Question: We strongly believe – Everything is happening. We are not doing anything. It is foolishness to think, I worked hard to achieve my current state…On the other hand – we also say, we should do our duties. We have to make sure, we do our...
Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah!

Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah!

Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah! Question: You have so many people asking you so many questions from all around the world……I’m sure you could fill every free minute you have (waiting for an appointment, waiting in the grocery check-out lane, sitting in the bathroom) just...
Karma in babies

Karma in babies

Karma in babies Question: At what age does a person starts creating karma? When a child is born, he does not have this attachment to action and he naturally does what comes to him, but again the child does not have any understanding of awareness and knowledge. so both...
Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts Question: Everything around me seems to go against me. My son has been sitting doing NOTHING since he graduated. My brother has been fighting a fierce divorce case with his wife and lost his home, money, kids and job. My father has shut...
No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha! Question: I have a very difficult marriage and a temperamental husband who drinks and blames me for his drinking. I am lonely and in pain. I understand this knowledge. I know everything is temporary but I still...
Your name does not belong to you!

Your name does not belong to you!

Your name does not belong to you! Question: Didi, I am 30 +. My Mom has nothing but to give advice every day and scold me. She always says negative about me and no encouragement. I cannot ignore them and I am getting angry at them and I decided not to call her for...
Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations! Question:At work, few people are disrespectful in team meetings. I understand emotions arise due to1] my dvesha [I do not have a powerful physical voice or authoritative position,...
Dealing with sadness…

Dealing with sadness…

Dealing with sadness… Question:There are instances when someone just blurts out anger for nothing I did (some people have anger management issues and I know that) and my reaction usually tears, going in silence and feeling hurt. Is that my bucket of anger too? If not,...
Death of a loved one

Death of a loved one

Death of a loved one Question:Why my daughter died of cancer at a very young age, she was very enthusiastic about life, still unmarried and why I had to go through her cancer battle, to see her pain, agony for 5 years? Nobody knows what it feels like taking your...
Mahaa Maaya, Moha Maaya and Yoga Maaya

Mahaa Maaya, Moha Maaya and Yoga Maaya

Mahaa Maaya, Moha Maaya and Yoga Maaya Question : The ball is rolling and we are not the doer. Whatever will happen will happen. How does free will fit in?  We have the free will not to create agami karma but what has to happen will happen irrespectively. Unless agami...
Seeing life as a dream!

Seeing life as a dream!

Seeing life as a dream! Question:Didi for some time now while in dream state there is that ‘I-amness’ and a knowingness of the dreams. Whatever the story is, it runs like a movie with a knowing that it is a dream. Is that how it’ll be?   Answer:Yes dear....
Dwindling of desires!

Dwindling of desires!

Dwindling of desires! Question:There is an expectation to take up additional tasks (at work) as the role requires it.As a spiritual practitioner, I have noticed desires reducing in me automatically and now I have no desire to do extra/more tasks aiming at promotion or...
Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone! Question: Didi, I see that people around me do all kinds of corrupt and unwholesome things – lie, steal, twist facts, play games with me, do politics in office as well as at home. These people are very...
Interview topic – Enlightened Beings

Interview topic – Enlightened Beings

Interview topic – Enlightened Beings Question: I am deeply interested to understand the meaning of “Enlightenment”. Answer: Interest in knowing something is called curiosity. It is not sufficient to help one attain the highest possible goal for a human called...
How to do the Jhanas optimally?

How to do the Jhanas optimally?

How to do the Jhanas optimally? Question:How to do the Jhanas optimally?Answer:One must experiment with his mind while in the Jhanas.Experiment 1 – Make an attempt to maintain it:To maintain it longer requires a stable and non-reactive mind. If you jump at the...
Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana Question: I went for the 10 days retreat. The experience was very fulfilling. On day 4 of the Vipassana program during meditation, I was vividly seeing the events from my childhood more than 35 years ago which upset me very much...
Happy Paryushana! Approaching rites and rituals the Advaitic way!

Happy Paryushana! Approaching rites and rituals the Advaitic way!

Happy Paryushana! Approaching rites and rituals the Advaitic way!   Question: Di, I finally had the experience and recognition, that everything is awareness, everything is Brahman! I am Brahman and everything is Brahman. Only Brahman is. And there is no karma....
Killing microbes accrues Karma or not?

Killing microbes accrues Karma or not?

Killing microbes accrues Karma or not? Question: I am a novice Buddhist. I admit that killing any living beings leads to negative karma production. Is there any explanation in karma formation in killing microorganisms? I had this debate with my friend, he claims...
Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right? Question:I have a question regarding the previous knowledge on Apaatra Daanam!We have faced that situation many times with extended family. Using my Viveka, it’s obviously ‘apaatra’! But why I still feel a pinch? Just...
Real Joy V/s Fake Joy

Real Joy V/s Fake Joy

Real Joy V/s Fake Joy Question: How do you differentiate real joy and fake joy? How can we find the enjoyment is real and not fake one? Answer: Hello dear, that’s a real deep question. The joy that comes from the objects of senses is temporary. Hence it is not real...
Law of Nature – Kudrat ka kanoon!

Law of Nature – Kudrat ka kanoon!

Law of Nature – Kudrat ka kanoon! Question:Is it okay to think negative about someone but not really do any action to hurt them? The negative thought was planted in me by another friend. I keep thinking about the negativity again and again, but I am not doing or...
Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted? Question:Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted? I notice that NOT ONLY in Hindu monks but also in the Buddhist sects. Why can’t man accept the Truth?Answer:Your question is valuable and will help many others.Buddha’s...
What is the purpose of life?

What is the purpose of life?

What is the purpose of life? Question:I keep wondering why we first broke away from our nature of infinite consciousness? Why did that subtle vibration even occur that led to the “I”/ ego and then to the projected consciousness that leads us to this cycle of samsara...
Is being a witness and being 100% aware the same?

Is being a witness and being 100% aware the same?

Is being a witness and being 100% aware the same? Question 1:I was practicing 100% awareness for most of the day. But it seemed to me that as I was 100% aware, I was also totally aware of what I was experiencing through the senses – I was totally aware of what my body...
God Loves Fun :)

God Loves Fun :)

God Loves Fun 🙂 Question: If we need to stay away from thoughts and control the mind, why did god give us the mind? Answer: God loves fun! There is no real purpose for this creation. It is all for fun. It is meant for your enjoyment. So just enjoy everything in the...
Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening! Question:Should I stay here in the US or go back to India? Should I sell my home or keep it and rent it out and return back to the US in a few years? Is there still some karma to be taken care of in the US…..in this...
Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how? Question:Didi, what does it mean to be with reality as it is? It’s difficult to understand. Please, would you explain?Answer:Be with reality as it is!This is a tough one to understand. People feel what’s so difficult in being with...
Your life had no other way to go but that ONE way!

Your life had no other way to go but that ONE way!

Your life had no other way to go but that ONE way! Question: You say – “There is only one possibility of the ball rolling. Your life had no other way to go but this way!” This makes me realize that if there is no other way my life could’ve...
New Year Message!

New Year Message!

New Year Message! Let’s start the New Year with a commitment to our own spiritual growth. Let’s make a resolution to simply go with the flow.   What does it mean to go with the flow? It means that whatever wholesome event, person or thing presents itself to me, I...
The collapse of craving!

The collapse of craving!

Results for "collapse of craving" Question:I have searched with many schools of thoughts and still cannot figure out why I still crave for things. In fact, I understand when you explain about the feverishness that arises because of craving. I totally...
The essence of Mourning period after death.

The essence of Mourning period after death.

Results for "the essence" Question:Dear Ektaji,A very close friend of my brother is expected to die due to cancer. Respected elder family members have said to him that he cannot attend a family wedding in June if he attends his friend’s cremation ceremony....
Volition is Karma!

Volition is Karma!

Volition is Karma! Question:Didi, silly question, I used to sometimes pluck the flowers from our backyard and put them in an arrangement in water or in a vase, but now when I go to pluck them I feel like I am hurting them and I don’t want to do it, so I haven’t been...
Spiritual Restlessness

Spiritual Restlessness

Spiritual Restlessness Question:Didi, quoting from your message “Constantly remind yourself that ‘this restlessness is a reality’. Let me try NOT to suppress it or cover it up”. Does one have to get past the struggle to just ‘BE’ with the restlessness? I have always...
Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Ekta Question:What is the point of knowing that it is the Mercury retrograde going on right now? I have only been on the watch since yesterday keeping a guard to prevent negativity. It makes me nervous. How is it helpful?Answer:Mercury Retrograde is just an apparent...
Bhavanga – The flow!

Bhavanga – The flow!

Bhavanga – The flow! Question:I started recognizing doing things naturally without application of the mind (application of the mind feels like there is a raaga/dwesha). There is a flow outside the involvement of the mind. I come to work, because I have to work and it...
Family obstructing Spiritual progress?

Family obstructing Spiritual progress?

Family obstructing Spiritual progress? Question:Didi based on one’s karma – will the family karma be so that it can take a toll on spiritual activities – disturb one’s spiritual process/progress ? Is there something one can do? Or the only option is to be accepting...
Karma in Marriages

Karma in Marriages

Karma in Marriages Question:If a husband and wife think differently, how does the karma work between them?AnswerEach has his/her own karma. Suppose, one is negative in his approach to life and other is positive, for them the karma equation is simple: Negative thoughts...
Be like a crystal!

Be like a crystal!

Be like a crystal! ‘Question: In Patanjali Yogasutras, a reference is made to ‘being a crystal’. Is ‘being a crystal’ different from Sampragnyata samadhi? Answer: ‘Being a crystal’ means living as if you don’t exist....
Stop struggling and float with Life!

Stop struggling and float with Life!

Stop struggling and float with Life! Question:At times I feel like I have dropped a desire, but again it pops up with more intensity. And at times I feel I am dropping the desire but doubt arises if I am just resisting it. How to differentiate between dropping a...
Miscarriage Karma

Miscarriage Karma

Types of Karma Question:How to deal with a miscarriage?Answer:Life brings along sukhas [pleasure] as well as dukhas [pain]. Why a dukha happens? Why it happens to a specific individual? When the dukkha comes? How long the dukha remains? When the dukha ends? All this...
How does one distinguish between spontaneous and impulsive actions?

How does one distinguish between spontaneous and impulsive actions?

How does one distinguish between spontaneous and impulsive actions? Question:Act spontaneously…that is my nature I have always been spontaneous…but all spontaneous acts are not always wise decisions! I have experienced in my life whenever I have been spontaneous I...