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From the standpoint of the Waker, there is no option to follow or ignore an intuition!

From the standpoint of the Waker, there is no option to follow or ignore an intuition!

From the standpoint of the Waker, there is no option to follow or ignore an intuition! Question: Dear Ektaji, if one chooses to follow or not to follow intuition while making decisions, is it part of Prarabdha Karma? Does following or not following it change...
Do I have to discard Dvaitam path rituals?

Do I have to discard Dvaitam path rituals?

Do I have to discard Dvaitam path rituals? Question: Do I have to discard all old rituals and practices that I followed on the previously adhered to Dvaitam paths? Sometimes, the thought occurs to resume what has been stopped. How do I navigate this?   Answer: On...
Persistent Sakshi-bhaava evolves to natural Vairagya

Persistent Sakshi-bhaava evolves to natural Vairagya

Persistent Sakshi-bhaava evolves to natural Vairagya Question: Didi, how to stay at a distance when a captivating arising appears? How to develop sufficient Vairagya (dispassion) towards it?    Answer: Realizing one is the Witness of the Waker and not the...
Does the dream tiger know the dreamer?

Does the dream tiger know the dreamer?

Does the dream tiger know the dreamer? Question: Dear Didi, I am beginning to recognize myself and others as formless and nameless. Are others different aspects of me? Is my daughter an aspect of me appearing as a daughter? Am I projecting all these people based on my...
If you can see, I can too!

If you can see, I can too!

If you can see, I can too! Question: I’ve been searching for the truth for a long time. I’ve explored a lot of paths — from “human-worship” and “guru-as-celebrity” types to “academic monk” approaches, “ritual-heavy” traditions, and even hopping from one...
You have trapped yourself and Only you can untrap your Self!

You have trapped yourself and Only you can untrap your Self!

You have trapped yourself and Only you can untrap your Self! Question: Dear Didi, If the ego is not getting much attention, is it possible that the ego makes the body fall sick to get attention? If yes, how can one get out of this trap?   Answer: The only way out...
Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving

Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving

Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving Question: Dear Ektaji, I am observing that I am yearning to be established in the witness consciousness, to know myself, at the same time, I fear that this thirst is a craving, a seeking that is leading me to...
Observation in Waking, Dreaming, and Sleeping reveal the difference between spontaneous flow and deliberate desire

Observation in Waking, Dreaming, and Sleeping reveal the difference between spontaneous flow and deliberate desire

Observation in Waking, Dreaming, and Sleeping reveal the difference between spontaneous flow and deliberate desire Question: Didi, I got a glimpse where I realized that ‘I’ am not projecting this world. The desire is a force itself. I think that ‘I...
There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts!

There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts!

There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts! Question: Dear Ektaji, You said, “If a thought rises, ‘I want coffee’, that is also a random, automatic arising from the natural flow.” Does that mean there can be many...
What is Direct Seeing? Who Sees? What is being Seen?

What is Direct Seeing? Who Sees? What is being Seen?

What is Direct Seeing? Who Sees? What is being Seen? Question: What is direct Seeing? Who Sees? What is being seen? Please help explain it clearly.   Answer: Let’s begin with what direct seeing is not. Direct Seeing is not seeing through the eyes: The eyes...
Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free!

Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free!

Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free! Question asked in the Gurukul forum:Someone stole a belonging, and a thought of ill will arose that this product will not have good consequences for the thief. You said that “Every pinch becomes a punch. The...
Become Debt-free by changing the pattern of the Waker!

Become Debt-free by changing the pattern of the Waker!

Become Debt-free by changing the pattern of the Waker! Question: Dear Didi,  You said that every arising is indebted to Zeroness. So is it that habitual tendencies, stories, and concepts of waking and dreaming are in debt to Zeroness? And being entangled in any...
Beware of mind-manufactured spiritual images 

Beware of mind-manufactured spiritual images 

Beware of mind-manufactured spiritual images  Question: Dear Ekta Ji, There is a recognition that there is an addiction or craving to doing, and there is an emptiness that becomes unbearable at times. The urge to do arises, cravings are created, and unwholesome...
When there is no perceiver, there is no solid projection!

When there is no perceiver, there is no solid projection!

When there is no perceiver, there is no solid projection! Question: Didi, Advaita teaches that the body-mind-person operates per a pre-determined script. Standing as awareness, ingrained behavior patterns (with spouse and teenage son) have slowly changed. If the...
Do you test the participants before admitting them to Gurukul?

Do you test the participants before admitting them to Gurukul?

Do you test the participants before admitting them to Gurukul? Question: Dear Didi, I want to join your Gurukul system, but I know that I am far from being eligible right now. I am too attached to this Samsara and my yearning is not strong enough for the highest...
Who sees?

Who sees?

Who sees? Question: Who sees? What is direct seeing? Is seeing of the ‘I’ a direct seeing? Is that the Self?   Answer: It is direct seeing but not direct seeing of the ‘Self’ dear. Let me explain seeing from the beginning for the benefit of all. The waker cannot...
The image of the witness is not the Witness!

The image of the witness is not the Witness!

The image of the witness is not the Witness! Question: Dear Ekta Ji, there is a recognition that there is an addiction or craving to doing, when the day’s measure is done and there is nothing more to do (including spiritual doing meditating, journaling) there is an...
It is my Dharma to let you know that Spiritual mentorship sessions are not psychotherapy

It is my Dharma to let you know that Spiritual mentorship sessions are not psychotherapy

It is my Dharma to let you know that Spiritual mentorship sessions are not psychotherapy Question: I have lots of suffering. Is there any possibility for me to have a private mentorship session for some guidance on this?   Answer: If you go to a heart surgeon and...
Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry

Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry

Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry Question: Namaste Ektaji, how does the leap from devotion to Self-realization take place for Meerabai, Tukaram, Gnyaneshwar, etc? There is no mention of self-inquiry, so how did they realize who they are?...
There is nobody to be reincarnated

There is nobody to be reincarnated

There is nobody to be reincarnated Question: What is the meaning of Annata or Non-self as taught by the Buddha? Why are there contradictory teachings of rebirth in Buddhism if Annata is the truth?   Answer: Annata means Anatman or Non-self, where there is no...
How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ? Question: First one of the 5 elements or the senses hits us (it also depends on my doshas), then it goes to the memory bank & opens one file like, dislike with People, Situation & Thing. (Is there any...
Transplant Donor Karma

Transplant Donor Karma

Transplant Donor Karma Question: The memory and intellect are not associated with the physical body correct? So if someone were to have a brain transplant, the transplanted brain should not come with any memories and karma of the donor. Is that right?   Answer:...
Raaga and Dvesha at the sub-conscious level

Raaga and Dvesha at the sub-conscious level

Raaga and Dvesha at the sub-conscious level Question: Can raaga/ dvesha happen at the sub conscious level?  Are there seeds of attachment buried deep inside me which will pop someday? Answer: Yes, Raaga/Dvesha happen at a subconscious level predominantly. It is...
Many Masters One Path

Many Masters One Path

Many Masters One Path Question: Why do you teach so many scriptures from different paths and not restrict to one particular religion/sect/organization only?   Answer: Since 1998, I have propagated scriptures by several spiritual masters. I know for sure from my...
Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone! Question: Didi, I see that people around me do all kinds of corrupt and unwholesome things – lie, steal, twist facts, play games with me, do politics in office as well as at home. These people are very...
How to give it back to the evil people in life?

How to give it back to the evil people in life?

How to give it back to the evil people in life? Question: I’m following the Buddha’s path of compassion but I need advice on how to treat people who treat you unfairly, cold-heartedly or are just evil people? I have been running into a lot of problems with it. I’ve...
Have a ‘Pure’ Inner-Guru Poornima!

Have a ‘Pure’ Inner-Guru Poornima!

Have a ‘Pure’ Inner-Guru Poornima! Question: What are the important things that a sincere seeker should understand about Guru Poornima? I was wondering how should a sincere seeker and disciple’s acharan [behaviour] be on the spiritual path especially in...
How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima?

How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima?

How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima? Question: Ektaji, Can you please give me tips on how to get a Proper True Darshan of my Guru during this upcoming Guru Poornima. The mind gets swept away with the much fanfare and misses seeing the Guru in his...
Psychological and Spiritual Poverty

Psychological and Spiritual Poverty

Psychological and Spiritual Poverty Question: Hello Ekta, In the field of Psychology, there is a concept of psychological poverty due to a lack of formative years of unconditional love. Is there something like spiritual poverty that could be a possibility in such...
Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening! Question: Should I stay here in the US or go back to India? Should I sell my home or keep it and rent it out and return back to the US in a few years? Is there still some karma to be taken care of in the US…..in this...
Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety Question: Dear Ektaji, How should one deal with anxiety through Karma Yoga? I understand the role of gyana and bhakti/surrender when we are anxious about something in future but it is still prabhava gyana. Therefore I end up reasoning with my...
Spiritual Anxiety!

Spiritual Anxiety!

Spiritual Anxiety! Question: Jai Gurudev Ektaji, For the past 3 months I have been regularly doing my sadhana every morning. Also, I have been listening to and reading knowledge more regularly than before. But I have noticed that I have become much more sensitive to...
Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns Question: JGD Ektaji, I have been dumped by my boyfriend and I just cannot find the courage to let go and move on. My ego is hurt and I really want to know why? Why has this happened to me? I want to still make it happen...
Connect with the Master internally instead of the external physical body!

Connect with the Master internally instead of the external physical body!

Connect with the Master internally instead of the external physical body! Question: I did feel a strong connection to my Guru when I did the course. But 3 years later now, I don’t feel anything. When I go to Ashram, I see people in crowds getting excited about Guruji,...
Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy! Question: Dear Ektaji,When do we call it Apatradanam? My husband and I helped on several occasions, our Indian temple priest by giving guru Dakshina in US dollars. Now there is a request for money for his daughter’s dental...
How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed? Question: Can you please give direction on how do you manage a job, family, personal endeavor, and Seva while not getting overwhelmed? I have a tendency to say yes to many things, but in the end, I’m just...
From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer! Question: Ektaji, what is the scenery and what does it mean ‘not to get lost’ in the scenery? Who is the seer?   Answer: Scenery: Everything around you is the scenery. The people, situations and things around you are all scenery Seer: You...
Reacting in Dreams

Reacting in Dreams

Reacting in Dreams Question: During the daytime a thought came to me, to say something nasty to my colleague in office. But I stopped myself and I let go of that dvesha [aversion] and I also forgot about it. By the time it was evening and I came home, I felt very...
Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness Question: What if it is not me who is possessive, but someone else is possessive of me , rather obsessive almost to the sick levels of possessing me, what is that I should or should not do. Answer: Recognize that it is just a play of the...
How do thoughts generate in the mind?

How do thoughts generate in the mind?

How do thoughts generate in the mind? Questions: How does the thought generate in our mind? Answer: From a Dvaitam perspective: Thoughts generate out of the subconscious. Now what is the quality of your subconscious? It depends on the conditioning of your mind from:...
Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations Question: Dear Ekta, I really don’t trust my business partner as he cheats on tax and my share of profits. I also realize that it must be karma, so I have to deal with this. At this moment I don’t have an alternative,...
Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not? Question:I have a desire to have clear pretty skin. I was wondering if it is Raaga or it is part of nature? Is it a bad karma or a bad desire to want to look pretty not with make-up but with normal skin?Answer:You are the...
Leave the mind alone!

Leave the mind alone!

Leave the mind alone! Question: Dear Didi, in your signature and on your web site, there is a beautiful quote. “Leave the mind alone, it will quieten itself! Meditate!”I meditate, but it is more of a struggle and I always come out feeling not so good about my...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened! Question: There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right? To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I...
Birthday Message!

Birthday Message!

Birthday Message! Question: JGD didi, many happy returns of the day. Please could you give us a message on your birthday about how to celebrate a birthday.   Answer:   Life is a school. We all are here to learn some lessons. There are several classrooms:...
Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how?

Be with reality as it is! But how? Question:Didi, what does it mean to be with reality as it is? It’s difficult to understand. Please, would you explain?Answer:Be with reality as it is!This is a tough one to understand. People feel what’s so difficult in being with...
In sickness and in health!

In sickness and in health!

In sickness and in health! Question:Ekta ji, during Vyadhi, even as small as a headache, the Prana takes a hit and is focused only on the body. Should one wait for the phase to finish, and take it as tapas to come back and settle in the Self, what do you...
Longer retreats for advanced meditators!

Longer retreats for advanced meditators!

Longer retreats for advanced meditators! Question: Please would you provide some insight into the need for longer retreats and how they help a spiritual seeker? Answer: In the longer retreats, a sincere spiritual seeker receives individual meditation instructions....
The essence of Mourning period after death.

The essence of Mourning period after death.

The essence of Mourning period after death. Question:Dear Ektaji,A very close friend of my brother is expected to die due to cancer. Respected elder family members have said to him that he cannot attend a family wedding in June if he attends his friend’s cremation...
Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements? Question:What is the point of knowing that it is the Mercury retrograde going on right now? I have only been on the watch since yesterday keeping a guard to prevent negativity. It makes me nervous. How is it...
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity? Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma...
When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you! Question: Dear Ekta didi, “When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you. Understand this and don’t put up resistance. Feel happy and lighter about it....