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Spiritual Anxiety!

Spiritual Anxiety!

Spiritual Anxiety! Question: Jai Gurudev Ektaji, For the past 3 months I have been regularly doing my sadhana every morning. Also, I have been listening to and reading knowledge more regularly than before. But I have noticed that I have become much more sensitive to...
Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future!

Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future!

Prisoner of past or Pioneer of future! Question: Didi, how to overcome the bad habit of reacting to other people. I always react and then regret that I should not have behaved so. Please guide me.   Answer: Very few people realize that the actual problem is ‘with...
What do you want to be? ‘King’ or a ‘Beggar’?

What do you want to be? ‘King’ or a ‘Beggar’?

What do you want to be? ‘King’ or a ‘Beggar’? Question: JGD Didi, I take up seva with full enthusiasm but then I slack and never complete what I have started or if I do, I am usually doing it thinking what will I get from this. Didi, how can I...
The vicious cycle of Likes & Dislikes!

The vicious cycle of Likes & Dislikes!

The vicious cycle of Likes & Dislikes! Question: Dear Ekta Di, if getting rid of karma is the sole purpose and to then to get enlightened is what we want, then how should we deal with this present life? I mean what should we do with this life ? If I should not...
Everything is programmed! Quit the self-foolery!

Everything is programmed! Quit the self-foolery!

Everything is programmed! Quit the self-foolery! Question: One of my friends asked me if as Advaitins so we plan but I found it hard to explain to her that everything is happening as it’s already programmed. The doer-ship is a false assumption. How do I explain this...
Guilt is a safety valve!

Guilt is a safety valve!

Guilt is a safety valve! Question: What is guilt?  Why is our conscience so strong (in some cases), for example, if one lies, but later on he feels guilt.  He knows he lied for the best, otherwise it would cause hurt to the other’s mind.   Answer: Guilt is...
What will people say?

What will people say?

What will people say? Questions: Hello Ekta didi, small negative events make me sad. It’s like the earth element is constantly dominating me. I worry and fear about things in my life. I don’t know how to rise above it. My problem is I think a lot what other...
Mahati Vinashayati – The greatest disaster!

Mahati Vinashayati – The greatest disaster!

Mahati Vinashayati – The greatest disaster! Question : When I am upset with someone or angry I tell myself to be calm and not to throw any agami seeds. My mind comes back saying I am ready to take rebirth. How do I get out of this cycle?   Answer: You must...
Happy NEW perspective!

Happy NEW perspective!

Happy NEW perspective! Seeker: Can you help me make a firm new years resolution and stick to it? Answer: At this junction in life [new years], most people run after resolutions or they sit and sulk about the past years resolutions that they did not keep up to. Haven’t...
Law of Cause & Effect

Law of Cause & Effect

Law of Cause & Effect Question: Ektaji JGD, I have over the years read many stories of children being brutally violated and it sickens me. I cannot believe or wrap my mind around the idea that these children are reaping the fruits of their past karma. Is it not...
From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer! Question: Ektaji, what is the scenery and what does it mean ‘not to get lost’ in the scenery? Who is the seer?   Answer: Scenery: Everything around you is the scenery. The people, situations and things around you are all scenery Seer: You...
Intense longing for self-realization

Intense longing for self-realization

Intense longing for self-realization Question:I have a strong and a very old habit of indulging in story creation and I realized it only after studying Chapter 12. This is the reason why I am not able to move ahead on the path, I am still at the level of doer and...
Let go of the story!

Let go of the story!

Let go of the story! Q: While yoga and Buddha’s path made me feel more calm and secure, I feel it was the mind still finding security and solace in some concept/activity, albeit more socially acceptable. A: What is the mind? It is simply thoughts+feelings dear....
What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender? Question: What is the difference between tolerance and surrender?   Answer: Tolerance is like a potential volcano. There is a dislike hidden within which just churns and burns inside and can erupt at any...
Is it a Raaga or a mere preference?

Is it a Raaga or a mere preference?

Is it a Raaga or a mere preference? Question: Ektaji, It is difficult to completely drop raaga and dvesha. For example, I interview several candidates for a job and based on my likes and dislikes within professional guidelines I select or reject a candidate. Within...
To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act? Question: With today’s knowledge, I know I should take life as a game but I was cheated in business. Should I drop it too, or should I pursue the case I filed with the lawyer?   Question: I work for a profit oriented company and there is a...
What is seeking?

What is seeking?

What is seeking? Question: I quit my job and interviewed for another one. They offered me an entry level position with a pay less than half of what I am currently making. I did not accept the offer. My previous boss is working on getting me back at my old job. By me...
Karma in babies

Karma in babies

Karma in babies Question: At what age does a person starts creating karma? When a child is born, he does not have this attachment to action and he naturally does what comes to him, but again the child does not have any understanding of awareness and knowledge. so both...
Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts Question: Everything around me seems to go against me. My son has been sitting doing NOTHING since he graduated. My brother has been fighting a fierce divorce case with his wife and lost his home, money, kids and job. My father has shut...
Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations Question: Dear Ekta, I really don’t trust my business partner as he cheats on tax and my share of profits. I also realize that it must be karma, so I have to deal with this. At this moment I don’t have an alternative,...
Dealing with ‘harsh’ behavior

Dealing with ‘harsh’ behavior

Dealing with ‘harsh’ behavior Question: If someone is behaving harsh and not accepting it rather want me to be kind and show humility and accept them and they will continue to be the same. How to handle them in this situation?   Answer: There are 2...
Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’ Question: Ektaji – Is it fair to have Dvesha to control the last impression (not to think certain thing)? If it is something out of control why not make it like “come as it comes” like spontaneously? Can we train our subconscious...
The secret of the ‘first thought’!

The secret of the ‘first thought’!

The secret of the ‘first thought’! Question: What to do if negative thoughts keep coming against a person. I know it is not right and I am creating agami karma for myself but I am still unable to avoid it.   Answer: This is a common mistake made by many spiritual...
Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path! Question : Dear Didi, I tend to be influenced by those who are having too much fun and less awareness and don’t take the spiritual path seriously. I feel that we are not even eligible to learn this beautiful knowledge from...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened! Question: There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right? To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I...
Vasanas

Vasanas

Vasanas Question:Can you clarify what vasana means?Answer:The mind is stuck in 3 factors –PeopleSituations andThingsThe association with all these 3 will lead to impressions in the mind.Association with people leads to – Impressions of entanglement, jealousy, lust,...
Churning in the fire of insults/criticism? Burn!

Churning in the fire of insults/criticism? Burn!

Churning in the fire of insults/criticism? Burn! Question: JGD Ekta Didi,Lately I have been inundated with thoughts of intimidating people in my family. My mind rewinds and plays the incident and cajoles me to react. While I was in this war in my mind, I realized that...
Fear being used as a weapon on the spiritual path

Fear being used as a weapon on the spiritual path

Fear being used as a weapon on the spiritual path Question:  Fear is being used to keep me bound to my current spiritual teacher. I keep getting emotionally manipulated by others in this community with the fearful stories of losing spiritual grace if I leave. But my...
Is it the witness or a blank screen manufactured by the mind?

Is it the witness or a blank screen manufactured by the mind?

Is it the witness or a blank screen manufactured by the mind? Question:Is it the witness or a blank screen manufactured by the mind? Is Manolaya the same as the blank screen manufactured by the mind? How do I get out of it? Answer: You will know very clearly if there...
What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness? Question:You mentioned law of attraction in our discussion. Is there anything we can do for the numerous times we have had knowingly/unknowingly grumbled upon others behavior and had bad thoughts about them? I am sorry for my ill...
Not my circus, not my monkeys!

Not my circus, not my monkeys!

Not my circus, not my monkeys! Question:Dear Ektaji, Can you please advise how we can both be in wonder and saakshi bhaav?  Aren’t these two opposite states? Or does it mean when we are in sadhana, we have to be in saakshi bhaav and other times in the state of...
Play in the world with awareness!

Play in the world with awareness!

Play in the world with awareness! Question:Dear Ekta, I am involved in this direct marking company. This is how they encourage you  to achieve your goals:Write your goals with a time line.  Your underlying goal should be one that touches you emotionally at a deep...
The truth is that you really don’t want to wake up!

The truth is that you really don’t want to wake up!

The truth is that you really don’t want to wake up! Question:If I have to get enlighten, it seems so difficult.  I have to get over my attachment to my spouse, children, parents, friends, job, aspirations, power, position, company, money, house, car, friends, phone,...
Who is God?

Who is God?

Who is God? Question:   What’s the easy way to be connected to divine. I was good at that but I got lost & cannot concentrate to get there again.   Answer: How to be connected to the divine? Who is God? Most do not even know who is God. How can you be...
Wrong Karma or Right Karma?

Wrong Karma or Right Karma?

Wrong Karma or Right Karma? Question:Didi – in everyday life situations if I start to ask myself ‘why am I put into this situation?’ and be with awareness and observe without attachments & listen to the inner voice – will I find the answer? ( trying to understand...
How to work on erasing past patterns?

How to work on erasing past patterns?

How to work on erasing past patterns? Question: JGD Ekta di, we acquire certain belief systems and patterns from our past birth as a result of Sanchita karma and these are strong impressions embedded in us that makes us act and react in a certain manner. The objective...
Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought Question: If a craving (or aversion) arises in my mind, would it be more strategic to observe that thought itself objectively, or to just direct my attention to my body for an observation round? My guess is the former…..but I’ve been finding more...
Dispassion or Ego?

Dispassion or Ego?

Dispassion or Ego? Question: Is it important for the outside world to accept my change in personality/ my growing dispassion? I don’t care about or see the outside world and when an ego of an external person/world comes up, I concentrate to focus on myself and the...
The higher Truth!

The higher Truth!

The higher Truth! Question-Today I was thinking that this body, this human life and the tools like Viveka that I currently have are only to understand, learn and reach the highest truth. But I’m just happily using it for all this worldly Maaya stuff. For a person to...
How to come out of the dream?

How to come out of the dream?

How to come out of the dream? Question:When I don’t know/realize that I’m living in a dream then how do I come out of the dream? – is it right to even think that I should come out (is there something outside of this ) OR think that it’s a dream n nothing matters &...
Can one use restraint to be celibate?

Can one use restraint to be celibate?

Can one use restraint to be celibate? Question:For Brahmacharya to happen, a maturity is required, before this maturity can one use restraint to be celibate?Answer:The act of “restraining the senses” belongs to the circle of sleep.What is the circle of...
How to let go of the past ?

How to let go of the past ?

How to let go of the past ? Question:What if people around do not let us forget few things of the past by either talking about it or however then how can we be content at that time?Answer:More Ashtavakra sessions will help you. I assume you understand that the more...
How to deal with emotions of negativity ?

How to deal with emotions of negativity ?

How to deal with emotions of negativity ? Question:I am going through storm of emotions and all negative like anger , jealousy. I feel frustrated, guess fire element is dominant. Though I tell myself it’s not me it’s the effect of fire element but it...
Principles of Law of Attraction

Principles of Law of Attraction

Principles of Law of Attraction Question:I’ve noticed, it is said to ‘be positive’ or  to ‘think positive’ so you attract that kind of people or energies around you, but when thoughts are negative then those energies or situations arise sooner than the positive...
Who are you listening to?

Who are you listening to?

Who are you listening to? Question:Hi Ektaji, Is Drishti/Nazar real? My son gets sick OR runs to emergency with some stiches/fractures etc after he achieves any trophy OR he exposes his skills in  a group. Mostly, whenever I get ready and am happy, immediately...
Dealing with people of a different type than you

Dealing with people of a different type than you

Dealing with people of a different type than you Question: Hello Ektaji, how do we deal, on a day to day basis, with people who are relatively unconscious or ignorant?  For e.g. at work, my colleagues are ignorant about proper diet and healthy lifestyles, such as...
Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise? Question:I met a guy for a matrimonial alliance but he left saying I feel a pull towards u so if it’s meant to be then destiny will get us back together! I don’t know how to deal with this. Is it really all destiny? Or it’s just a name...
How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior? Question:After working with a person, some habit/pattern and memory came up. It reminds me that she acted like my ex-boss who needs us to respect her and follow her lead; but at some points, my ego tells me: No, this is not right! I...
Karma Bag

Karma Bag

Karma Bag Question:JGD,  We are forced to react to certain practical situations in Life; for instance, when the Mosquito or any insect starts biting, we immediately respond to the extent of killing it. Will the above deed account for dvesha? If so, how to handle such...
Stop struggling and float with Life!

Stop struggling and float with Life!

Stop struggling and float with Life! Question:At times I feel like I have dropped a desire, but again it pops up with more intensity. And at times I feel I am dropping the desire but doubt arises if I am just resisting it. How to differentiate between dropping a...
Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

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Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety Question:Dear Ektaji,How should one deal with anxiety through Karma Yoga? I understand the role of gyana and bhakti/surrender when we are anxious about something in future but it is still prabhava gyana. Therefore I end up reasoning with my racing...
Life is a flow of events on account of Karma

Life is a flow of events on account of Karma

Life is a flow of events on account of Karma Question:If life is a flow of events, where everything that is happening has to and we have nothing to do with it, then how does the karma theory play in with the above statement, where we alone are responsible for our...
Overcoming Jealousy

Overcoming Jealousy

Overcoming Jealousy Question: We are all social beings. We need to socialize once in a while with our friends just to get away from the home environment. All our friends are very mature, happy and well to do. They drive better cars, they have better homes, they have...
Fear of the ‘Law of Attraction’

Fear of the ‘Law of Attraction’

Fear of the ‘Law of Attraction’ Question: It is said, ‘whatever/wherever you put your thought to, you dissolve into it’? I understand the gross meaning of this that wherever I put focus my on, my mind starts working towards that or on the way of achieving that....
Karma and its ways

Karma and its ways

Karma and its ways Question:My husband is an alcoholic all he does is work and sleep alone.  there is practically no interaction or no marriage between us. I feel extremely lonely and very depressed at home.What should I do to come out of this loneliness and depressed...
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity? Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma...
When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you! Question:Jai Gurudev Ekta didi, “When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you. Understand this and don’t put up resistance. Feel happy and lighter about it....
Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought

Sensation Vs Thought Question:If a craving (or aversion) arises in my mind, would it be more strategic to observe that thought itself objectively, or to just direct my attention to my body for an observation round? My guess is the former…..but I’ve been finding more...