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Correcting at the source with the master key of dispassion

Correcting at the source with the master key of dispassion

Correcting at the source with the master key of dispassion Question: Ekta Didi, Nisargadatta Maharaj advises on correcting at the source. How do I make corrections to the projection?   Answer: When Maharaj says that correction is required at the source, he means...
From Loneliness to Aloneness…

From Loneliness to Aloneness…

From Loneliness to Aloneness… Question: Why does everyone feel lonely, irrespective of age, gender, or whether surrounded by people or not? From the Advaita perspective, I know there are no others, and there is only Brahman. ‘Others’ is my figment of...
Don’t just forgive but be grateful for all worldly sorrows

Don’t just forgive but be grateful for all worldly sorrows

Don’t just forgive but be grateful for all worldly sorrows Question: Dear Ekta, Thanksgiving is difficult for people like me. I am unable to give thanks to my family. I want to follow the Buddhadvaita path and forgive, but bitter memories haunt me. Can you help...
Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving

Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving

Spiritual thirst is different from a worldly craving Question: Dear Ektaji, I am observing that I am yearning to be established in the witness consciousness, to know myself, at the same time, I fear that this thirst is a craving, a seeking that is leading me to...
There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts!

There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts!

There is no chooser-thought that selects one among several option-thoughts! Question: Dear Ektaji, You said, “If a thought rises, ‘I want coffee’, that is also a random, automatic arising from the natural flow.” Does that mean there can be many...
Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free!

Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free!

Be grateful for sudden losses, they make you debt-free! Question asked in the Gurukul forum:Someone stole a belonging, and a thought of ill will arose that this product will not have good consequences for the thief. You said that “Every pinch becomes a punch. The...
Manufacturing mental images and observing them is not true meditation

Manufacturing mental images and observing them is not true meditation

Manufacturing mental images and observing them is not true meditation Question: When I was chanting my mantra, I heard Akathkatha. I saw Shiva in front of my eyes. My consciousness was not in my body. I had that experience for two hours. I felt lightweight and had...
Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry

Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry

Devotion is the automatic last step on the path of Self-Inquiry Question: Namaste Ektaji, how does the leap from devotion to Self-realization take place for Meerabai, Tukaram, Gnyaneshwar, etc? There is no mention of self-inquiry, so how did they realize who they are?...
How is Self-Inquiry done? What is Self-Exploration? 

How is Self-Inquiry done? What is Self-Exploration? 

How is Self-Inquiry done? What is Self-Exploration?  Question: How is Self-Inquiry done? What is Self-Exploration?   Answer: Dear Spiritual Seeker,  On the self-effacing authentic path to one’s true nature, resorting to Self-Inquiry and Self-Exploration is...
How to overcome loneliness and depression?

How to overcome loneliness and depression?

How to overcome loneliness and depression? Question: My husband is an alcoholic all he does is work and sleep alone, there is practically no interaction or no marriage between us. So I don’t have any company. In spite of understanding all the spiritual knowledge it is...
Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise? Question: I met a guy for a matrimonial alliance but he left saying I feel a pull towards u so if it’s meant to be then destiny will get us back together! I don’t know how to deal with this. Is it really all destiny? Or it’s just a name...
How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior? Question: After working with a person, some habit/pattern and memory came up. It reminds me that she acted like my ex-boss who needs us to respect her and follow her lead; but at some points, my ego tells me: No, this is not right! I...
Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru! Question: Ektaji, My bhakti kicked in and did a little revolt against the answer – https://ektabathija.com/craving-for-guru/ Divine craving (for the physical guru or the tattva) is in my faith a blessing..does Mukti...
Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns Question: JGD Ektaji, I have been dumped by my boyfriend and I just cannot find the courage to let go and move on. My ego is hurt and I really want to know why? Why has this happened to me? I want to still make it happen...
Journey from external to internal

Journey from external to internal

Journey from external to internal Question: Dear Ektaji, I have been with a spiritual organizaion for 15 yrs now, have done courses, seva, satsang(less of seva though :-), could be better) … However, one question that has never been understood is going within. Journey...
Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex? Question: Some have very strong desires and need sex anywhere between 2/3 times a week. Some have not had sex in months. Some are frustrated that one of the partner initiates all the time. Some have never had great need for...
Storm of Emotions in Relationships

Storm of Emotions in Relationships

Storm of Emotions in Relationships Question: I am going through a lot of stress in relationships, too much storm of emotions in relationship with one particular individual. Please help!   Answer: There are definite steps to always follow irrespective of who/what...
How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed? Question: Can you please give direction on how do you manage a job, family, personal endeavor, and Seva while not getting overwhelmed? I have a tendency to say yes to many things, but in the end, I’m just...
Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments! Question: My 14 year old son is terrible to live with. He is disrespectful, hurtful, vengeful without any provocation… even when I come from a space of love, the reaction from him is horrible. I tell myself that it’s my karma and to go...
To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act? Question: With today’s knowledge, I know I should take life as a game but I was cheated in business. Should I drop it too, or should I pursue the case I filed with the lawyer?   Question: I work for a profit oriented company and there is a...
What is seeking?

What is seeking?

What is seeking? Question: I quit my job and interviewed for another one. They offered me an entry level position with a pay less than half of what I am currently making. I did not accept the offer. My previous boss is working on getting me back at my old job. By me...
Does the vaccine affect the Self?

Does the vaccine affect the Self?

Does the vaccine affect the Self? Question: Dear Ekatji,I have a concern about whether I should be vaccinated or not I am really not sure. My life is being the same before the pandemic and now during this pandemic, my life is so simple I am not in the rush for things...
Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness Question: What if it is not me who is possessive, but someone else is possessive of me , rather obsessive almost to the sick levels of possessing me, what is that I should or should not do. Answer: Recognize that it is just a play of the...
Karma in babies

Karma in babies

Karma in babies Question: At what age does a person starts creating karma? When a child is born, he does not have this attachment to action and he naturally does what comes to him, but again the child does not have any understanding of awareness and knowledge. so both...
Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts Question: Everything around me seems to go against me. My son has been sitting doing NOTHING since he graduated. My brother has been fighting a fierce divorce case with his wife and lost his home, money, kids and job. My father has shut...
Are you worthy of Spiritual Knowledge?

Are you worthy of Spiritual Knowledge?

Are you worthy of Spiritual Knowledge? Question : Sometimes I wonder that, am I even worthy of this highest and beautiful knowledge? Even after studying and applying the knowledge we sometimes lose the path and get involved in cravings, desires and get carried away by...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened! Question: There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right? To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I...
Birthday Message!

Birthday Message!

Birthday Message! Question: JGD didi, many happy returns of the day. Please could you give us a message on your birthday about how to celebrate a birthday.   Answer:   Life is a school. We all are here to learn some lessons. There are several classrooms:...
Time does not exist!

Time does not exist!

Time does not exist! Question: As you said, we will be born again and again until we attain moksha from the cycle of birth and death. How to understand the paradigm of time here i.e. after this life, can I be born back in time? Does time exist really? If no, then...
Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ? Question: When the storm of emotions hit (it did yesterday LOL) I kept reminding myself to “watch for it”. The emotion was anger and disappointment but when it was surging the high wasn’t under control. I was constantly reminding myself that the...
Who is God?

Who is God?

Who is God? Question:   What’s the easy way to be connected to divine. I was good at that but I got lost & cannot concentrate to get there again.   Answer: How to be connected to the divine? Who is God? Most do not even know who is God. How can you be...
Death

Death

Death Question: Dearest Ektaji, My first boss and mentor who became a very good friend just died this morning. I have known him since 1985. Part of me feels ignorant/lost and part of me feels thirsty. I feel Lost because I do not have good knowledge about death and...
Is sex divine?

Is sex divine?

Is sex divine? Question:I have a very personal question. What is significance of sex in our marriage? If I am not the body, and only the consciousness, then how do I define sex or lovemaking with my spouse? Is sex divine? Or is it more of us not able to control our...
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity? Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma...