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Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Benefits of Vipassana or Satipatthana

Question: I went for the 10 days retreat. The experience was very fulfilling. On day 4 of the Vipassana program during meditation, I was vividly seeing the events from my childhood more than 35 years ago which upset me very much and I was unable to sleep that night. I...
Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted?

Question:Why are Buddha’s Suttas not easily accepted? I notice that NOT ONLY in Hindu monks but also in the Buddhist sects. Why can’t man accept the Truth?Answer:Your question is valuable and will help many others.Buddha’s original teachings are in the form of Suttas...
How to give it back to the evil people in life?

How to give it back to the evil people in life?

Question:I’m following the Buddha’s path of compassion but I need advice on how to treat people who treat you unfairly, cold-heartedly or are just evil people? I have been running into a lot of problems with it. I’ve been ignoring people. But I’m starting to feel...
Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Dealing with disrespectful people using Buddha’s principles of observing sensations!

Question:At work, few people are disrespectful in team meetings. I understand emotions arise due to1] my dvesha [I do not have a powerful physical voice or authoritative position, etc].2] my fear of “trump effect” that the authoritative figure is disrespecting,...
Want to spend an afternoon interacting with a fully enlightened person… How to find one?

Want to spend an afternoon interacting with a fully enlightened person… How to find one?

Question:I have a very deep thirst for knowing the Truth of ‘Who am I?’ I follow Ramana Maharshi’s teachings but it is so difficult to find a fully enlightened being to spend some time with and learn the Truth. I want to spend an afternoon speaking with a person who...
Are you ready for Buddha’s teachings on the Art of BEing with REALITY?

Are you ready for Buddha’s teachings on the Art of BEing with REALITY?

Question:I am confused whether I should start with the Vedic or Buddha’s knowledge sessions on the website http://www.gnyanasangha.com. How do I know if I am ready for Buddha’s teachings?Answer:First you must evaluate yourself by asking yourself – Why are you here?...
Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Apaatra Daanam – Charity to the unworthy!

Question:Dear Ektaji,When do we call it Apatradanam? My husband and I helped on several occasions, our Indian temple priest by giving guru Dakshina in US dollars. Now there is a request for money for his daughter’s dental procedure. Because I can not help out of my...
Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Why is there a pinch experienced in doing right?

Question:I have a question regarding the previous knowledge on Apaatra Daanam!We have faced that situation many times with extended family. Using my Viveka, it’s obviously ‘apaatra’! But why I still feel a pinch? Just the feeling that someone was not happy with me –...
Leave the mind alone!

Leave the mind alone!

Question: Dear Didi, in your signature and on your web site, there is a beautiful quote. “Leave the mind alone, it will quieten itself! Meditate!”I meditate, but it is more of a struggle and I always come out feeling not so good about my inability to become...
Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Stand up for what is right even if you have to stand alone!

Question:Didi,I see that people around me do all kinds of corrupt and unwholesome things – lie, steal, twist facts, play games with me, do politics in office as well as at home. These people are very successful and rich. They seem to have a powerful position among...
Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Is there a benefit in knowing about planetary movements?

Question:What is the point of knowing that it is the Mercury retrograde going on right now? I have only been on the watch since yesterday keeping a guard to prevent negativity. It makes me nervous. How is it helpful?Answer:Mercury Retrograde is just an apparent...
How to make sure not to be born again?

How to make sure not to be born again?

Question:How to make sure not to be born again? How to stop the cyclical nonsense of birth and death?Answer:That’s an invaluable question, dear. But, It does not have a straight answer. There is NO way to ensure not to be born again. At the most, you can work hard on...
In sickness and in health!

In sickness and in health!

Question:Ekta ji, during Vyadhi, even as small as a headache, the Prana takes a hit and is focused only on the body. Should one wait for the phase to finish, and take it as tapas to come back and settle in the Self, what do you suggest?Answer:No dear, what’s the point...
Intellectualization of Spiritual Knowledge is a MAJOR obstacle!

Intellectualization of Spiritual Knowledge is a MAJOR obstacle!

Question:Ekta ji, can you point to any references in scriptures or your own experience on how to identify the symptoms of being half baked in vedanta knowledge or being caught up just in the theory of advaita?Answer:It is a big danger if you are caught up in the...
Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah

Overwhelmed by to-do’s? Naah

Question:You have so many people asking you so many questions from all around the world……I’m sure you could fill every free minute you have (waiting for an appointment, waiting in the grocery check-out lane, sitting in the bathroom) just writing out responses.  And as...
Dealing with Sexual desires on the spiritual path!

Dealing with Sexual desires on the spiritual path!

Question:What should be the effort from our side to get over sexual desire on the spiritual path, if we should not suppress it? If we express it aren’t we making those impressions stronger? What should be our attitude towards it?Answer:Have you played with a bow and...
How to come out of the dream?

How to come out of the dream?

Question:When I don’t know/realize that I’m living in a dream then how do I come out of the dream? – is it right to even think that I should come out (is there something outside of this ) OR think that it’s a dream n nothing matters & live in the...
So many spiritual techniques! So much confusion!

So many spiritual techniques! So much confusion!

Question:Before coming on to the spiritual path, life was simple. You study, you pass the exam. You don’t study, you fail. Now with the half-baked Knowledge, for anything you worry a thousand things:Whether I am witness consciousness or working with Raaga-Dvesha?Good...
Why everyone cannot meditate?

Why everyone cannot meditate?

Question:Didi – due to some recent experiences I have been wondering about this. Why is it so hard for people to understand this spiritual aspect of life and not meditate? which can help live a stress-free life in the general sense. Why isn’t this knowledge to...
Can a liar meditate?

Can a liar meditate?

Can a liar meditate?Answer:Buddha said that morality [Sheel] is more important than anything else.If your morals are loose, you will not be able to meditate.If you cannot meditate, inner wisdom will not arise.If inner wisdom does not arise, you will NEVER attain the...
What is the source of mind?

What is the source of mind?

Question:Explain Vasishtha’s answer to Rama’s question – “What is the source of mind and how did it arise?”Answer:If I were answering this after going through our previous knowledge discussions, before even reading a page of Yoga Vashishta, I would answer this by...
How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

How does a “thought” become an Agami Karma ?

Question:First one of the 5 elements or the senses hits us (it also depends on my doshas), then it goes to the memory bank & opens one file like, dislike with People, Situation & Thing. (Is there any other file gets opened?). Now what happens if I’m not aware...
Doshas and the daily, seasonal cycle

Doshas and the daily, seasonal cycle

Question :How fast does the element changes its every minute, second, micro second, nano second?Answer:Elements change the Prakriti. Here are the timings for the Dosha changes. We will talk about this in Ashtavakra 20.Doshas in the daily cycleKapha time: 6 a.m....
What does Guruji see when he looks around ?

What does Guruji see when he looks around ?

Question:Does Guruji still have SOME mind since he has a body? And what does he see when he looks around? Does he see what I see, or does he see 1 giant blob of consciousness floating around / extensions of himself?Answer:Gurudev has a highly developed mind that has...
Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Your raagas and dveshas create future, not the thoughts!

Question:In yesterday’s YV, he talks about not creating future because of thoughts. So all along we try to think of how to shape the future but it seems that’s counter intuitive to what’s to be done. Focus should be on present n not creating the...
How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

How do we stop negative thoughts at unpleasant moments?

Question:I agree and have experienced that daily regular sadhana, pranayama, meditation, chanting helps to bring awareness and stay focused. However, there are times when we go through unpleasant moments how do we stop negative thoughts right at that moment?Answer:The...
Using restrain to practice celibacy, is it right?

Using restrain to practice celibacy, is it right?

Question:For Brahmacharya to happen, a maturity is required, before this maturity can one use restraint to be celibate?Answer:The act of “restraining the senses” belongs to the circle of sleep.What is the circle of sleep?We usually are living life...

How much to rely on Astrology ?

Question:People suggest to do few pujas and they have theories related to the puja for example: if the left flower falls then your wish will come true! Or an astrologer says something unhappy about your life then how to deal with such things and be...

Don’t be wrong against wrong, everything that comes your way is Karma!

Question:Dear Ektaji, today I listened to AG 2 “The five principles” here Guruji says that “don’t be wrong against wrong”. After 3-4 hours of listening, I was faced with the situation. I was arguing with my Insurance agent on why the premium has gone up in...
Raaga and Dvesha at the sub-conscious level

Raaga and Dvesha at the sub-conscious level

Question:Can raaga/ dvesha happen at the sub conscious level?  Are there seeds of attachment buried deep inside me which will pop someday?Answer:Yes, Raaga/Dvesha happen at a subconscious level predominantly. It is because we live our lives unaware of how our minds...

Mind v/s Self !

Question: Sometimes these guided meditations (including today’s) talk about how our mind is bigger than our body and our body is surrounded by our mind, and says it like this is a good thing. But if that’s the case, it’s really undermining my ability...

Principles of Law of Attraction

Question:I’ve noticed, it is said to ‘be positive’ or  to ‘think positive’ so you attract that kind of people or energies around you, but when thoughts are negative then those energies or situations arise sooner than the positive ones. It seems like it takes a...
Who are you listening to?

Who are you listening to?

Question:Hi Ektaji, Is Drishti/Nazar real? My son gets sick OR runs to emergency with some stiches/fractures etc after he achieves any trophy OR he exposes his skills in  a group. Mostly, whenever I get ready and am happy, immediately something comes up and I get...

Be like a crystal!

Question:In Patanjali Yogasutras, Guruji talked about being a crystal. Is being a crystal different from Sampragnyata samadhi?Answer:Being a crystal means living as if you don’t exist. Just letting Karma flow. Just like a leaf would flow with the river. Not...
Dealing with people of a different type than you

Dealing with people of a different type than you

Question: Hello Ektaji, how do we deal, on a day to day basis, with people who are relatively unconscious or ignorant?  For e.g. at work, my colleagues are ignorant about proper diet and healthy lifestyles, such as eating less refined sugar, meditating, contemplation,...
What has to happen has already happened!

What has to happen has already happened!

Question:There is only one possibility in the way things happen, right?To be specific – at this point I am going through an emotional turmoil. I could choose to wait for my girlfriend and see where it takes me OR I could choose to forget her and move on OR I...

Observing the mind and getting out of problems!

Question:I understand that we have to maintain an observer’s attitude towards our mind. But sometimes, trying to observe what is going on in my mind creates more turmoil in my mind since an inner dialogue starts about whether these thoughts are useless etc. Is...
Are you crazy or wise?

Are you crazy or wise?

Question:I met a guy for a matrimonial alliance but he left saying I feel a pull towards u so if it’s meant to be then destiny will get us back together! I don’t know how to deal with this. Is it really all destiny? Or it’s just a name given and we have to make...
Who is God?

Who is God?

Question: What’s the easy way to be connected to divine. I was good at that but I got lost & cannot concentrate to get there again. Answer:How to be connected to the divine? Who is God? Most do not even know who is God. How can you be connected to whom you...
How to deal with misbehavior?

How to deal with misbehavior?

Question:After working with a person, some habit/pattern and memory came up. It reminds me that she acted like my ex-boss who needs us to respect her and follow her lead; but at some points, my ego tells me: No, this is not right! I should do those things which I...
Abiding in the Self!

Abiding in the Self!

Question:There is a sort of ‘bond’ between the awareness and the mind. The awareness goes out every time (away from the self to the world). And this connection or bond must be broken. How can I break this connection? I know that I have to take a step back every time I...
Surrender

Surrender

Question:I am trying to understand why we have to surrender our impulses/attachments to the Devas. We talked about asking forgiveness of the Devas and asking them to guide us, free us and help us so that we don’t get tripped by the obstacles they throw in our...
Karma in babies

Karma in babies

Question:At what age does a person starts creating karma? When a child is born, he does not have this attachment to action and he naturally does what comes to him, but again the child does not have any understanding of awareness and knowledge. so both these thoughts...
Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Dealing with Suicidal thoughts

Question:Everything around me seems to go against me. My son has been sitting doing NOTHING since he graduated. My brother has been fighting a fierce divorce case with his wife and lost his home, money, kids and job. My father has shut himself up. My mother remains in...
Thoughts during meditation and sadness after!

Thoughts during meditation and sadness after!

Question:Dear Ekta didi, I have been doing my Kriya and meditation but I just can’t get my mind to shut up! It constantly brings thoughts. I don’t resist them. But I am slightly concerned. I am in no way impatient, I will continue to do the 20 minute meditations until...
Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Does spirituality reduce the desire for sex?

Question:Some have very strong desires and need sex anywhere between 2/3 times a week. Some have not had sex in months. Some are frustrated that one of the partner initiates all the time. Some have never had great need for sex right from a very young age. Some talk...
Death

Death

Question:Dearest Ektaji, My first boss and mentor who became a very good friend just died this morning. I have known him since 1985. Part of me feels ignorant/lost and part of me feels thirsty. I feel Lost because I do not have good knowledge about death and thirsty...
What to do when you have problems in life?

What to do when you have problems in life?

We all have problems in life, now what to do when your emotions are high and you are just not able to cope?1 ) First of all calm your self down with some 10 minute knowledge video from here- https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCS0FPDb7sVS8YWtNd78NwNKt4w6–jBy2) You...
Stop struggling and float with Life!

Stop struggling and float with Life!

Question:At times I feel like I have dropped a desire, but again it pops up with more intensity. And at times I feel I am dropping the desire but doubt arises if I am just resisting it. How to differentiate between dropping a desire and resisting a desire?Answer:When...
The life of ‘maximum relief’

The life of ‘maximum relief’

Question: My friend somewhere read that the life before liberation is the toughest, is there any truth to this? Answer: I don’t think that the last life before liberation is the toughest. It is just that in that life, you will actually make efforts to understand your...
Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

Beyond the realm of right and wrong…

Have questions? Reach out to Ekta by clicking on the “Ask a Question” button on the left sidebar. For attending Ekta’s online knowledge sessions, click the “Gnyana Sangha” button on the left sidebar. ← Previous Post Next Post → Have a Spiritual Question? Ask...
Dealing with Anxiety

Dealing with Anxiety

Question:Dear Ektaji,How should one deal with anxiety through Karma Yoga? I understand the role of gyana and bhakti/surrender when we are anxious about something in future but it is still prabhava gyana. Therefore I end up reasoning with my racing mind to settle down...
Dealing with Anxiety

Why do I feel stagnant in my spiritual growth?

Question:JGD Ektaji – As you are aware, I have been in knowledge for about 3 years now. I have also been involved with some seva and regular sadhana but I feel like I am not growing. I watch my self all the time (sakshi Bhaav) and as an outsider I see that I am still...
Journey from external to internal

Journey from external to internal

Question:Dear Ektaji, I have been with Guruji for 15 yrs now, have done courses, seva, satsang( less of seva though :-), could be better) … However, one question that has never been understood is going within. Journey from external to internal. I am referring to your...
A few questions on KARMA

A few questions on KARMA

Question:Is karma about keeping your intentions positive or is it about keeping your intention and thoughts neutral?Answer:There are two steps:Moving from negativity to positivityDropping the attachment to positivity = attaining neutralityQuestion:What about the...
Karma, Destiny and Free will

Karma, Destiny and Free will

Question:My understanding is that Free-will comes into the picture in two ways: 1.We exercise our free will in the present life in response to Prarabdh Karma (Thoughts and actions that we manifest in current life as a result of Sanchita karma). 2. We exercise Free...
Karma and Suffering

Karma and Suffering

Question:If everything is decided by Karma flow then what possibly could be an explanation of 3 years or even 3 months old girls getting physically abused? Is the one who is getting sexually abused experiencing the result of Sanchita karma? If yes then isn’t it...
What is the purpose of life?

What is the purpose of life?

Question:I keep wondering why we first broke away from our nature of infinite consciousness? Why did that subtle vibration even occur that led to the “I”/ ego and then to the projected consciousness that leads us to this cycle of samsara and then it is all about...
What is Personality?

What is Personality?

Question:Is personality born from the soul or is it created by the ego? When we see others who are acting very differently than we ever would like ourselves to, even though they are part of our same consciousness, does that mean that they have the same personality...
Spiritual but not Religious

Spiritual but not Religious

Question:Now a days it is becoming fashionable to say ” I am not religious but I am spiritual”. Could you help me understand the difference between the two. Isn’t spirituality a part of our religion? Does religion only mean to worship God as a form and follow certain...
Life is a flow of events on account of Karma

Life is a flow of events on account of Karma

Question:If life is a flow of events, where everything that is happening has to and we have nothing to do with it, then how does the karma theory play in with the above statement, where we alone are responsible for our prarabdh karma due to our sanchita...
Three paths for a Seeker!

Three paths for a Seeker!

Question:Good to meet you mam. Love being in a place where the knowledge is discussed..feels light and natural.One thought that passed me during today’s discussionLoving the God, consciousness in a idol form or even as a person like Guruji is beautiful. It gives the...
If everything is a play of Destiny, then what is Freewill?

If everything is a play of Destiny, then what is Freewill?

Question:I am still not clear on how Destiny and Freewill play a part in our lives. When do we have a freewill when it is all our destiny or a result of our past karma. If I am not the Doer, where is free will in the picture? Is free will just an illusion?Answer:There...
You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist!

You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist!

Question:Hi Ekta ji, Loved your analogy of white and green dress with body and soul. However, continuing with this analogy if the dress is the body and the body in white or green dress who did the action is the soul, then how come “I am not the doer” be said since “I”...
Resistance to meditation

Resistance to meditation

Question:Dear Ekta,I have a question. You told us on google hangout to give the divine the highest priority. For a few years I have been doing do my home kriya very day. Weekly I do the long kriya (if there is a teacher available in my little country). I never skip a...
Sit on the fence!

Sit on the fence!

Question:Dear Ektaji, What to do when you have conflict in picking among two different things(raagas) in life ? It seems like dropping one and picking another is like choosing one of your Raagaa & creating dvesha for another.What is the flow of life at that point...
Overcoming Jealousy

Overcoming Jealousy

Question:We are all social beings. We need to socialize once in a while with our friends just to get away from the home environment. All our friends are very mature, happy and well to do. They drive better cars, they have better homes, they have better relationships...
You are GOD! Only GOD is! You do not exist!

Spiritual Anxiety!

Question:Jai Gurudev Ektaji,For the past 3 months I have been regularly doing my sadhana (Pranayama, Bhastrika, Kriya, Sahaj) every morning. Also, I have been listening to and reading knowledge more regularly than before. But I have noticed that I have become much...
Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL!

Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL!

Question:Buddha taught that there is NO SOUL! Please, can you enlighten us on this?Answer:To understand Buddha first, we have to understand his basic teachings.Buddha was a prince, who saw riches/name/fame/relationships but did not find True Sukha in that. His did not...
Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Mind retaliates to your answer on craving for Guru!

Question:Ektaji, My bhakti kicked in and did a little revolt against the answer – https://ektabathija.wordpress.com/2016/07/04/craving-for-guru/Divine craving (for the physical guru or the tattva) is in my faith a blessing..does Mukti not happen through Grace? Once we...
Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Become Mortgage-free from relationship patterns

Question:JGD Ektaji, I have been dumped by my boyfriend and I just cannot find the courage to let go and move on. My ego is hurt and I really want to know why? Why has this happened to me? I want to still make it happen but he just won’t listen. I keep begging him and...
Dealing with difficult people & situations

Dealing with difficult people & situations

Question:Dear Ekta, I really don’t trust my business partner as he cheats on tax and my share of profits. I also realize that it must be karma, so I have to deal with this. At this moment I don’t have an alternative, because I have to pay my bills. All the savings...
Vashistha talks about Fate and Self-effort

Vashistha talks about Fate and Self-effort

Question:I am reading the Yoga Vasistha these days, could you please explain to me pages 22-24 of the Supreme Yoga – by Swami Venkatesananda, where he talks about Fate and self effort?Answer:Vasistha says that ‘Self effort’ is of 2 types:1 – Self effort of this...
Baby dying in womb attains liberation or not?

Baby dying in womb attains liberation or not?

The key to liberation is ‘awareness’. Being ‘Aware at the point of death is the secret code!For an ‘unenlightened soul’, birth and death both happen in a ‘deep sleep state devoid of awareness’. Because of this lack of awareness, one is stuck in the vicious cycle of...
Impressions related to body and sex

Impressions related to body and sex

Question:I have impressions on my mind for past so many years that this body is me. How do I get rid of this impression that is so strongly rooted in my mind? Will the impression of “I am the body” be the reason for my re-birth again as a human being?Answer:There is...
Meditation is not for me!

Meditation is not for me!

Question:While meditating, not even once have I listened to the whole meditation, there are variety of things happening every single time:1. As soon as I close my eyes, even when I am paying attention to the voice, my mind starts drifting.2. or a dreamlike state comes...
Mahaa Maaya, Moha Maaya and Yoga Maaya

Mahaa Maaya, Moha Maaya and Yoga Maaya

Question :The ball is rolling and we are not the doer. Whatever will happen will happen. How does free will fit in?  You have explained free will earlier, but somehow I am not able to connect it. We have the free will not to create agami karma but what has to happen...
Faith is like falling in love!

Faith is like falling in love!

Question: Didi, What is faith ?Answer: You don’t know me, you have never met nor have you ever seen me, still you have a firm connection with me and know that I will give you true answers for your questions. This is called Faith Question: How do I cultivate Faith in...
Is Ambition also a seeking?

Is Ambition also a seeking?

Question:One of yesterday’s Yoga Vasishtha knowledge points and homework, that you gave was ‘not to seek and just be and live effortlessly through whatever transpires because of Sanchita karma.’  How do we differentiate seeking from ambition?  Or are they the same?...
The greatest fear!

The greatest fear!

Question:Jgd didi, your recent post made me realize that the ego is the cause of my beginning. Now that I have taken a step towards liberation there is a strange fear of becoming no one again, the mind says-  what will happen to’me’ after liberation, there will be no...
Dusangha sarvathaiva tyajaha – Shun bad company at all costs!

Dusangha sarvathaiva tyajaha – Shun bad company at all costs!

Question:Di, there is tremendous change in the society in India…everyone is so much into alcohol and stuff. There are special afternoon get together of females where all of them go to pubs…I am always the odd one out not going or not drinking…as a result I feel cut...
Is there something like “too much spiritual knowledge”?

Is there something like “too much spiritual knowledge”?

Question:All who worship what is not real knowledge, enter into blind darkness: those who delight in real knowledge, enter, as it were, into greater darkness.This is excerpt from Ishavasya Upanishad, what struck me was that people who worship worldly knowledge are far...
Karma and its ways

Karma and its ways

Question:My husband is an alcoholic all he does is work and sleep alone.  there is practically no interaction or no marriage between us. I feel extremely lonely and very depressed at home.What should I do to come out of this loneliness and depressed feelings and give...
Storm of Emotions in Relationships

Storm of Emotions in Relationships

Question:I am going through a lot of stress in relationships, too much storm of emotions in relationship with one particular individual. Please help!Answer:There are definite steps to always follow irrespective of who/what is the cause of this storm of emotions:First...
How to be motivated when you know everything is incapable of satisfying?

How to be motivated when you know everything is incapable of satisfying?

Question:At first I had found satisfaction in this idea of “aniccha – everything is incapable of satisfying”. It was kind of relieving that I didn’t have to wait to actually do something or finish something to already know the result, that any imaginable “high” was...
Expectations are Attachments!

Expectations are Attachments!

Question:My 14 year old son is terrible to live with. He is disrespectful, hurtful, vengeful without any provocation… even when I come from a space of love, the reaction from him is horrible. I tell myself that it’s my karma and to go through it. I identify the...
Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Decision-making – Everything is a happening!

Question:Should I stay here in the US or go back to India? Should I sell my home or keep it and rent it out and return back to the US in a few years? Is there still some karma to be taken care of in the US…..in this case where do I draw a line about destiny and free...
Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Wanting to look good….. Raaga or not?

Question:I have a desire to have clear pretty skin. I was wondering if it is Raaga or it is part of nature? Is it a bad karma or a bad desire to want to look pretty not with make-up but with normal skin?Answer:You are the best judge, dear! Only you would know whether...
Have a ‘Pure’ Guru Poornima!

Have a ‘Pure’ Guru Poornima!

Question:What are the important things that a sincere seeker should understand about Guru Poornima? I was wondering how should a sincere seeker and disciple’s acharan [behaviour] be on the spiritual path especially in the presence of a Guru. Please guide.Answer:Guru...
How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima?

How to do proper darshan of the Guru during Guru Poornima?

Question:Ektaji Jai Guru Dev, Can you please give me tips on how to get a Proper True Darshan of Gurudev during this upcoming Guru Poornima. The mind gets swept away with the much fanfare and misses seeing the Guru in his full presence. How do we not get caught in...
Does a Guru or the Enlightened one feel sadness? Do they actually fall sick?

Does a Guru or the Enlightened one feel sadness? Do they actually fall sick?

Question:I have a question, although it may sound silly. I was wondering, do enlightened beings feel sadness? Do they actually feel sick? As I look at Guruji, I see consciousness and whatever is emanating from him is just natural. Since he’s in a human form, he’s not...
How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

How to manage job, family, Seva without getting overwhelmed?

Question:Can you please give direction on how do you manage a job, family, personal endeavor, and Seva while not getting overwhelmed? I have a tendency to say yes to many things, but in the end, I’m just playing catch up on my to-do list. How to manage the tasks and...
From scenery to seer!

From scenery to seer!

Question:Ektaji, what is the scenery and what does it mean ‘not to get lost’ in the scenery? Who is the seer?Answer:Scenery: Everything around you is the scenery. The people, situations and things around you are all scenerySeer: You are the seer. The one who is seeing...
How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?

Question:How to work on maintaining internal purity when I know that I have become impure by stepping out of my marriage? How to get over the guilt of Infidelity?Answer:Everything that happens to us is because of our own Karma from the past. The first thing a sincere...
Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Karma affects both Material life and spiritual goals?

Question:We do not choose where we are born or what profession we choose, but we choose whom we get married to or have kids. Also, the kind of people who come into our life is a result of our past karmas – good or bad.If I did not have a choice in my education or the...
What can I do to increase Awareness?

What can I do to increase Awareness?

Question:You mentioned law of attraction in our discussion. Is there anything we can do for the numerous times we have had knowingly/unknowingly grumbled upon others behavior and had bad thoughts about them? I am sorry for my ill thoughts and wondering if I can do...
Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Fear of the ‘last thoughts at death’

Question:Ektaji – Is it fair to have Dvesha to control the last impression (not to think certain thing)? If it is something out of control why not make it like “come as it comes” like spontaneously? Can we train our subconscious brain to think- not to think (e.g....
Birthday Message!

Birthday Message!

Question:JGD didi, many happy returns of the day. Please could you give us a message on your birthday about how to celebrate a birthday.Answer:Life is a school. We all are here to learn some lessons. There are several classrooms- relationship class, career class,...
Is being a witness and being 100% aware the same?

Is being a witness and being 100% aware the same?

Question 1:I was practicing 100% awareness for most of the day. But it seemed to me that as I was 100% aware, I was also totally aware of what I was experiencing through the senses – I was totally aware of what my body and mind were doing. It seemed to be an excellent...
What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

What is the difference between Tolerance and Surrender?

Question:What is the difference between tolerance and surrender?Answer:Tolerance is like a potential volcano. There is a dislike hidden within which just churns and burns inside and can erupt at any time. Tolerance is just a temporary cover-up. When you are tolerating...
How do I experience Silence during meditation ?

How do I experience Silence during meditation ?

Question:“Drop the small mind”. I understand one way is to keep saying I am not the body, I am not the mind, I am not the ego etc. I do this during meditation, yet I am unable to TRULY drop the mind just does not go away.A few thoughts come then they stop but I am...
Who am I?

Who am I?

Question:Similar to what’s said in AG 4- I got caught in identifying with a talent and also with not having a talent & was/is suffering. What Guruji said still repeats in my ears. He said “you don’t know who you are”. I started thinking how and when will I know...
Dealing with Possessiveness

Dealing with Possessiveness

Question:What if it is not me who is possessive, but someone else is possessive of me , rather obsessive almost to the sick levels of possessing me, what is that I should or should not do.Answer:Recognize that it is just a play of the elements and that person’s karma...
Vasanas

Vasanas

Question:Can you clarify what vasana means?Answer:The mind is stuck in 3 factors –PeopleSituations andThingsThe association with all these 3 will lead to impressions in the mind.Association with people leads to – Impressions of entanglement, jealousy, lust, anger,...
Are you a SAKSHI ?

Are you a SAKSHI ?

Question:When the storm of emotions hit (it did yesterday LOL) I kept reminding myself to “watch for it”. The emotion was anger and disappointment but when it was surging the high wasn’t under control.I was constantly reminding myself that the anger and fear are my...
There is no happiness in this world!

There is no happiness in this world!

Question: Why am I not happy with my-self? why am I continuously looking for someone/something/some situation to make me happy or make me feel that I am happy? Answer: There is no Happiness/Sukha in this world, but the mind does not want to recognize this truth. Life...
Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Bhakti leads to the flowering of Gnyana

Question: Hello Ektaji, I read on one of the Facebook post where Guruji says “Devotion destroys all the karma”.  Could you please explain this with reference to what we have learnt so far in Ashtavakra Gita? Answer: Ashtavakra is the path of Gnyana...
When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you!

Question:Jai Gurudev Ekta didi, “When someone blames you, they actually take away some negative karma from you. Understand this and don’t put up resistance. Feel happy and lighter about it. Outside you may resist, but inside if you don’t resist, and feel happy that...
To Act, or Not To Act?

To Act, or Not To Act?

Question:With today’s knowledge, I know I should take life as a game but I was cheated in business. Should I drop it too, or should I pursue the case I filed with the lawyer?Question:I work for a profit oriented company and there is a lot of political stuff going on.I...
Your name does not belong to you!

Your name does not belong to you!

Question:Didi, I am 30 +. My Mom has nothing but to give advice every day and scold me. She always says negative about me and no encouragement. I cannot ignore them and I am getting angry at them and I decided not to call her for months. Even after many years they...
Free will is a misnomer!

Free will is a misnomer!

Question:Ekta Ji, Please can you elaborate on this. Is there no free will? I thought only few things like birth, death, longevity of life, source of birth are predetermined. Others, we can change our karmas. The statement below contradicts. Please share!“As long as...
What is seeking?

What is seeking?

Question:I quit my job and interviewed for another one. They offered me an entry level position with a pay less than half of what I am currently making. I did not accept the offer. My previous boss is working on getting me back at my old job. By me not accepting the...
How to experience the spiritual knowledge?

How to experience the spiritual knowledge?

Question:I am starting to get to a point of reading/listening/understanding this spiritual knowledge where I am “making it a concept” as Guruji puts it. How do I “experience” the knowledge rather than “learn” it? Just wait out prarabdha? It almost feels like I can...
What if the Karma theory is wrong?

What if the Karma theory is wrong?

Question:I am getting a feeling of missing out. What if this Karma Theory is wrong and I wake up 40 years from now realizing that I missed out on people, places and things that at least gave me short-term pleasure. Now I have to give it all up to develop discipline in...
The door that leads you ‘IN’ also leads you ‘OUT’!

The door that leads you ‘IN’ also leads you ‘OUT’!

Question: I am a very competitive and jealous person in the office, at home, with family & friends and especially in my volunteer activities. Now this competition is coming into my spiritual side also. In Art of living now, I want to be a teacher like you. Nothing...
Connect with the Master internally instead of the external physical body!

Connect with the Master internally instead of the external physical body!

Question:Jai Gurudev! I’ve joined The Art of Living with Yes+ course and I’m 19 years old. I did feel a strong connection to Guruji when I did the course. But 3 years laternow, I don’t feel anything. When I go to Ashram, I see people in crowds getting excited about...
Are you worthy of Spiritual Knowledge?

Are you worthy of Spiritual Knowledge?

Question :Sometimes I wonder that, am I even worthy of this highest and beautiful knowledge? Even after studying and applying the knowledge we sometimes lose the path and get involved in cravings, desires and get carried away by sense organs. It is then it comes to...
Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Ego is a major pitfall on the Spiritual path!

Question :Dear Didi, I tend to be influenced by those who are having too much fun and less awareness and don’t take the spiritual path seriously. I feel that we are not even eligible to learn this beautiful knowledge from Gurudev. He is so compassionate towards us in...
What is Tapas?

What is Tapas?

Question:What exactly is tapas? Does it refer to a dissolved state? I understand that the words: burn, cook are used here as metaphor but what do they actually refer to?Answer:Tapas means endurance. Tapas is how strong are you mentally to be able to go through the ups...
Speaking is a skill for the wise!

Speaking is a skill for the wise!

Question:You said it is best to keep quiet unless you have something positive or helpful to say. I used to do this, but people used to say that I am unfriendly, uninterested or arrogant. Should I speak up more to create a better environment around people or should I...
No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

No decision is wrong if it is devoid of raaga/dvesha!

Question:I have a very difficult marriage and a temperamental husband who drinks and blames me for his drinking. I am lonely and in pain. I understand this knowledge. I know everything is temporary but I still crave for a good supportive husband and companion. What do...
Yardstick to measure spiritual progress

Yardstick to measure spiritual progress

Question:What is the yardstick to measure my spiritual progress? How do I know if I am progressing spiritually?Answer:The yardstick to measure your spiritual progress is: ‘Equanimity + Awareness’.*Equanimity = [Internal Non-Reaction + External Non-Reaction] in any...